It’s encouraging to see how quickly and swiftly lawmakers criticized Clinton. Democrats like Sen. Dick Durbin, no doubt, worry less about the effects of her comments on feminism and more about the ripple effect they might have on the party as a whole. But beyond the politics, perhaps now is the time to change the conversation.

The reaction against Clinton suggests more Americans of all political stripes are ready to end the blanket hostility against men, and to remind women that despite the bad actors out there, they have more choices than ever before, and great sway over the kind of society they live in.

Progressive feminists like Clinton need to take a step back and realize that winning the game of sexual equality—or an election—doesn’t come from moving the goal posts. Feminists need to recognize that women will make choices at home, in the workplace, and in the voting booth, and they won’t always be the same choices. Feminists might not agree with a woman’s decision to study English, work part-time, or even vote for Trump, but these choices are the result of women’s free will, not the fault of men.