I have mixed views on the vaunted American tradition of therapy. I grew up between the decidedly non-therapeutic culture of Belfast, Northern Ireland and the more navel-gazing environment of liberal Brooklyn, New York. I have gone to multiple therapists, some of whom were very helpful. And I’ve been to couples therapy, in an ill-fated attempt to save a dying marriage. Yet in all of those hours I spent sniffling on a couch in a neutral-palette room, never once did I think: ‘I wish my therapist would bring up my white privilege, because that is really keeping me up at night.’

It seems in this regard, I’m more Belfast and less Brooklyn. What really brought this home to me was a very long article in the New York Times Magazine by Orna Guralnik, the star of Showtime’s hit show, Couples Therapy. Her clients have the kind of problems that all committed relationships are prone to having – money stresses, infidelity, conflicting parenting styles. The twist is that, in her sessions, she also fearlessly tackles the kinds of issues that only deeply liberal-left, middle-class, blue-state couples would ever agonise over. For instance, in a heterosexual partnership between two black people, who has more privilege? Spoiler alert: it’s the dude.