Gestational surrogacy contracts are also against the law in New York, but State Senator Brad Hoylman (D-27th Senate Dist.) introduced a bill last year that would change that. And he has first hand experience with the issue. Hoylman and his husband had to go to California to find a surrogate to carry their daughter Silvia, who’s now four.

“If the [bill] passes, we’ll have surrogates who could actually engage with intended parents and egg donors,” says Hoylman.

“We don’t want to turn baby making into a commercial industry,” says Jennifer Lahl, president of the Center for Bioethics and Culture, who, among other things, worries that surrogacy contracts don’t “anticipate every problem” that could arise between a surrogate and a couple.