What used to be a conversation on feeding that I would have to commiserate with other moms has become a conversation I have with friends, acquaintances and the general population at large. People unironically use the word “lactivist” to describe themselves.

The world has gone mad.

It goes beyond nosiness and into something resembling an enforcement squad for breast-feeding. People ask and expect the answer to be a dutiful “of course I will be breast-feeding my baby. Breast is best!”

When your answer is anything else — say, that your husband will be administering one bottle of formula so you can sleep more than two or three hours at a clip — you get a furrowed brow and a look of concern from people who have no reason to care about you or your children.