At UMich, sexual violence includes "discounting feelings," "withholding sex"

But, as Draplin writes, universities make these slips all the time—treating disfavored behavior and physically painful behavior as one and the same. He cites an interview with the sexual violence support coordinator at Brock University in Canada in which the administrator claims “anything that makes someone feel unsafe” counts as violence.

Institutions of higher learning should be more precise with their definitions. Being insufficiently attentive to other people’s feelings is not an act of violence.