Davis, a 42-year-old consultant who is Black, says he simply could not abide his friend downplaying police brutality, and harping instead on the looting and violence happening amid the mostly peaceful protests.

“I told him ‘If this is your attitude, we can’t be cool anymore,'” Davis said. “‘I don’t respect you now. I don’t. Because people are really dying.'”

Jensen, a retired professor, also sees it as a moral absolute. As a sexual assault survivor, she says, she couldn’t stand it when the guy she’d been close to for 40 years was being cavalier about the allegations against President Trump’s then-Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh.

“He was going off like ‘Oh, you drank the Kool-Aid’ and ‘Kavanaugh didn’t do anything,'” she recalled. “It made me sick. If this is his core ethics, I don’t want that kind of person in my life.”