There’s nothing wrong with women wanting their spouse to be a provider. A 2017 Pew Poll found that 71% of American adults said it’s “very important for a man to be able to support a family financially to be a good husband or partner.” Dishes aren’t enough.
But women who don’t see a man as marriage material because of his income are seeing it wrong. Marriage is a stabilizing force, and married men are the highest-earning group of adults — more than single men, more than anyone.
With good reason. A married man has something to work for in a way one who’s single does not. Add children to the mix, and guys will find hungry mouths to feed to be a big motivator to earn.
Of course, a man’s potential is harder to see than the number of commas on his bank-account statement. But smart women should be looking for that, rather than the cash in hand.