But the nature of their reaction to the Franken news was different this time: instead of the usual expressions of outrage and disgust, there was a collective gasp and lamenting chorus of “oh no”s.

They pored over the picture of him appearing to grope his accuser, the model turned radio host Leannn Tweeden, and debated whether his hands were actually on her breasts or simply hovering over them. They couldn’t believe Franken would forced himself on another woman and shove his tongue down her throat. How could a good guy like him do such a thing?

No one wants to think of someone they love, or anyone they admire and respect, as a monster. But as more and more people come forward with stories of harassment and assault, more and more people are having to reckon with this conflict.