Honestly, it’s no wonder that people regularly ‘misgender’ Lovato and other ‘they / them’ celebs. Have you seen them? For all intents and purposes, they’re just women with short hair – or, in Sam Smith’s case, a chubby man in latex. Nothing about their appearance suggests that they are trying to look like anything other than their biological sex.
The reality is that celebrities opt for the nonbinary option because it gives them some much-needed victim points. As young, rich, generally attractive white men and women, they’re normally placed at the bottom of the identitarian hierarchy. Adopting trendy pronouns gives them a seat at the table – and a medal in the Oppression Olympics. Or in the case of someone like Ezra Miller, a nonbinary actor who is constantly whining about being misgendered, it seems to grant him a free pass with the media for some very concerning behaviour.
Nonbinary celebs like Lovato say they’re ‘tired’ of explaining their gender to everyone. Just imagine how tired we are of listening.
[This is the reason I’m done with pronoun watch, too. Lovato’s arbitrary flitting between positions here make it clear that this is not about truth or accuracy, but about submission to whimsical and fanciful narcissism. Lovato and others can indulge themselves in fantasy. The rest of us are not required to submit to it, especially given the capricious nature of such things. — Ed]
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