There is no scarcity right now of jokes, memes and advice on how to lose the “pandemic 15” or shame around pandemic weight gain. But pushing ourselves to get back to the life we had before, for better or for worse, seems counterintuitive to the opportunity we have as we re-enter society, as they say, “vaxxed and waxed” to offer ourselves the radical self-acceptance of our bodies. Why not take this moment to reset our barometers for self-love? Why not just reject the unfair, external standards that have always kept us all — but especially women — in a cycle of self-hate, fighting to get or keep our weight down, cycling through juice cleanses and fad diets and overly aggressive exercise classes? I’m talking to myself as much as I’m talking to you: Stop trying to lose weight because you think you need to in order to "get back out there." Talia Lavin wrote recently that “there's a secret legion of grieving and unimproved femmes who have tried and failed to enter the halls of a kind of womanhood that is locked off to us.” But enough is enough.