I’m so unsophisticated that I thought monogamy was a bit like pregnancy. You are or you aren’t. Well, at least I thought so until I read this piece in the Boston Globe. Writer Zachary Zane apparently likes to have sex with lots of different people, both male and female, and has discovered a monogamy “spectrum.”

During my exploratory college years, I was often confused about my sexuality. I knew I had loved women, but found myself, drunkenly, in the arms of various men. I wasn’t sure why I was doing it. Was I in denial of being gay? Was I simply an open-minded straight guy? Or was I just a drunk and horny hot mess?

These questions kept me up at night. Finally, my senior year of college, I entertained the idea that I might be bisexual, but I didn’t embrace the label until a year after graduating. That’s when I learned that I didn’t have to like men and women equally to be bisexual. I learned that sexuality was a spectrum, and my point on the spectrum wasn’t fixed. My attractions to various genders could evolve. In fact, it’s completely normal, and even somewhat expected that my attractions to all genders change over my lifetime.

You know what’s coming next: