But not everyone thinks Brashier is doing people in her situation a favor. “To say that because you can’t have penis-in-vagina or anal intercourse, and that that defines you as a sexual person, which seems to be the message she is giving, I find very sad,” says Leslie Schover, a professor of behavioral science at the University of Texas MD Anderson Cancer Center and an expert in reproductive health after cancer. “It’s contrary to the message I try to give that your sexuality is a part of you even if they amputate your penis or take away your vagina.”