She says people of color disagree all the time about what constitutes racism. So can white people if they display one important attitude during a debate over racism:
“A lot of times people just want to be heard,” she says.
Colin Kaepernick was the subject of a recent “whitesplaining” incident.
“It doesn’t mean you have to go all out and say, ‘You’re right, I’m racist and I apologize,’ and fall all over yourself apologizing,” she adds. “But just for the sake of validating that person’s experience, you can say how it’s entirely possible for you do a thing that you didn’t mean to be racist.”