Finally: “You’re not invited to my wedding” alerts
“You’re not invited” alerts are the latest trend for those brides and grooms who feel a need to confirm non-attendance. With some couples looking for more budget-friendly receptions (i.e., smaller guest lists) and social media serving as wedding announcements on steroids, some feel a need to let non-essential pals know they’ll be sitting this one out.
“Nine out of 10 times, it’s because of lack of space – and the couple feels super guilty,” Tatiana Byron, founder of event planning service The Wedding Salon, told TODAY.com. “These are usually people they’re friendly with, but not close to.”
Tatiana’s clients have done everything from personally e-mailing and sending cards to acquaintances to having their wedding planner do the dirty work for them – call and apologize on the couple’s behalf. The response? An unsurprising mix of disappointment and anger.
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Go to Vegas to the Elvis get married chapel and you won’t have to deal with this?
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letget on February 8, 2013 at 6:31 PM
Madonna’s been doing this for years.
steebo77 on February 8, 2013 at 6:35 PM
I’d be extremely happy to not be invited to a wedding.
Blake on February 8, 2013 at 6:35 PM
I’d be extremely happy to not ever see/hear Madonna.
Blake on February 8, 2013 at 6:38 PM
Among who? WHO!?
Jeddite on February 8, 2013 at 6:42 PM
Other than my son’s wedding, my sentiments exactly.
Bitter Clinger on February 8, 2013 at 6:43 PM
They should add a link on the Dear Jerk emails where they can send their wedding gift money to the BrObama fund.
BL@KBIRD on February 8, 2013 at 6:44 PM
We had 30~32 guests at our wedding. We could have easily had far more people, especially had the wedding been in my hometown and state instead of hers. In over seven years of marriage, we’ve never had anyone, family or friend tell us that they were upset or offended that they were not invited, and both of us have been to larger family weddings on both sides prior to and after our marriage.
Yes, weddings are a day to celebrate and to publicly commemorate and announce your commitment and love, but there’s no reason to feel ashamed or compelled to invite even your cousins or good buddies.
We had a small ceremony and reception and everyone who attended commented on how nice it was. Yet some people seem compelled to have ridiculously large weddings and receptions, spending enough money to put a downpayment on a house, buy a new car or pay off a good debt.
As for people who are offended by not being invited… get a life. If you’re not in the nuclear family or bosom buddies, there’s really no reason to fuss.
Logus on February 8, 2013 at 6:59 PM
Is sending an empty box or an expired food item proper gift protocol?
viking01 on February 8, 2013 at 7:01 PM
If it were to happen to me, I would send them a thank you note.
OldEnglish on February 8, 2013 at 7:03 PM
Yeah. There were 5 of us at my wedding. One being me. Another being my wife. And another being the justice of the peace. Heck, I didn’t even tell anyone (including my parents) for months afterward. I don’t think that I needed this service.
besser tot als rot on February 8, 2013 at 7:06 PM
I think my mom was slightly peeved.
besser tot als rot on February 8, 2013 at 7:08 PM
Having more guests at the wedding RECEPTION costs the couple money. Having
people attend the wedding itself (I’m assuming it’s in a Church) costs nothing,
and that’s the essential part. During the marriage ceremony there’s a part where
the crowd is asked “Does anyone know of any reason why this couple cannot be
married?”. That’s not meant to be a rhetorical question; and the point of asking
it would be defeated if the couple can un-invite any witnesses who have such a
reason.
solideogloria on February 8, 2013 at 7:45 PM
This is a way to deal with the rudesters who, on discovering they aren’t invited, try to invite themselves or call the bride/groom asking “Where’s my invitation?”
mrsknightley on February 8, 2013 at 7:59 PM
Forgot to add that it’s meant to be a preemptive strike against the growing rudester trend.
mrsknightley on February 8, 2013 at 8:01 PM
Or, sometimes, with receptions running over $100 a person, it’s more a matter of sticker shock.
Count to 10 on February 8, 2013 at 8:44 PM
I wouldn’t mind getting a couple of these. Watching a wedding at this point is like taking an artillery shell to the chest. It hurts THAT bad.
MelonCollie on February 8, 2013 at 8:53 PM