Why I won’t debate politics on Facebook
Ironically for a website aimed at helping users maintain old friendships and forge new ones, Facebook is actually quite good at facilitating their destruction. Users seem to forget the old maxim about avoiding discussion of politics and religion. It might sound odd to the denizens of New York and Washington, but most people naturally avoid conflict, and the prospect of getting into heated political debates, particularly with friends or colleagues, is a major turn-off. But on Facebook, shielded from the inherent anxiety of personal contact, many can’t resist the impulse to speak whatever is on their mind. When that person you thought you knew quite well actually turns out to be a 9/11 conspiracy theorist, is it possible to still stay friendly with them?
A recent survey confirmed my suspicion. Earlier this year, the Pew Internet & American Life project released the results of a poll it had conducted among over 2,500 adult users of social networking sites. 38 per cent said that they ‘discovered through a friend’s post that his/her political beliefs were different than the user thought they were’, and that 18 per cent had blocked, unfriended or hidden a friend due to politics. The trend is exacerbated by the fact that those people who are most active in posting and commenting about politics on social networking sites fall on opposite extremes of the political spectrum.









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Jamie Kirchick, do the world a favor, stop talking politics altogether, and go back to reviewing gay bars for a living. It is what you do best…
JohnGalt23 on December 20, 2012 at 8:08 PM
I’ll hand this to James, by the article, at least he isn’t a ‘truther.’ Small consolation for a #ickwad, I know, but it’s all I got.
Thomas More on December 20, 2012 at 8:12 PM
What’s most important is that progressives go unchallenged everywhere, all the time.
forest on December 20, 2012 at 8:22 PM
Many people seem to be shocked to learn that not all their friends share their political views … or appreciate their non-stop political rants. I finally blocked the news feed of a couple of Facebook friends who posted their political views incessantly.
aunursa on December 20, 2012 at 8:25 PM
I try to keep politics out of Facebook myself. I get enough of it here and elsewhere. If I post something, I try to keep it light.
Haven’t lost a FBF yet.
JeffWeimer on December 20, 2012 at 8:26 PM
Whatever about the author, but this is the reason I deleted my facebook account. I had a real problem with letting most of the garbage from my left-wing “friends” go unanswered before the election, but the bile they were spewing after they won the election was off the charts. It was if they were insulted that Obama didn’t win 100% of the vote. I started defriending them then just decided to get out altogether.
The Count on December 20, 2012 at 8:28 PM
My experience on facebook is that leftists assume alot more people agree with them than really do and they are quite aggressive about “sharing” than normal people are. I usually lay off until they start threatening to kill and sterilize people who disagree with them (actually happened yesterday).
forest on December 20, 2012 at 8:28 PM
I don’t see much of anyone around (in person) these days, so for me, the only way that I feel I may be making a difference in other people’s opinions is on Facebook. During the election, I posted a fair bit, but I also held myself back a bit as well. I let most outrageous lefty posts slide. NO MORE! Now if I see something outrageous, 80% of the time, I reply. Like Ayn Rand said,
THAT’S how Obama got elected. It cannot continue like this. And any friend worth having won’t dump you because of politics as long as you don’t stoop to name calling.
Glenn Jericho on December 20, 2012 at 8:41 PM
I blocked all of my friends’ news feeds. At least most of them. I not only wanted left-wing politics off my page, but the narcissism and exhibitionism that many of my friends put out there. Apologies to my friends who don’t use Facebook in those ways.
I wanted to continue thinking well of them.
However…I get news feeds from all of the AFP organizations and several other conservative organizations & politicians. It’s become useful for me to see what’s out there.
22044 on December 20, 2012 at 8:48 PM
Odd. This ‘social media’ stuff sure is making us unsociable.
locomotivebreath1901 on December 20, 2012 at 9:05 PM
I deleted my account, I suggest everyone else do the same.
MoreLiberty on December 20, 2012 at 9:29 PM
FB is no longer just a friendship site. I managed to keep politics off it for 3 years, but couldn’t help responding this election year. I think it’s the perfect for promoting political principles. Just know your audience.
elfman on December 20, 2012 at 9:32 PM
I suppose I’m guilty of this as I did block my friends that do nothing but post about Republicans being Nazi’s and claiming that being anti abortion was the equivalent of hating women and wanting them to all be raped and beaten and left barefoot in a kitchen.
I’m not sure why that makes me the bad guy here.
I’m still friends with them in real life where they actually talk about things other than politics.
For the friends that only occasionally post political things (even when it is 180 degrees from what I believe) I have no issues.
JadeNYU on December 20, 2012 at 9:33 PM
Ditto.
Kataklysmic on December 20, 2012 at 9:40 PM
I don’t face, space, or twit.
davidk on December 20, 2012 at 9:40 PM
I used to work as a journalist and frequently interviewed actors and musicians. This was some decades ago and they mostly hadn’t got around to foisting their political opinions during a 10 minute ‘phoner’ at that time so it was generally fun and interesting chatting with famous people about the work they did, usually their latest film or album or suchlike. I also had a talent for striking a rapport with people and teasing out a personal anecdote or two that would add sparkle to the interview. I remember the day I learned I was to interview a particular popular actress who I thought was not only good at her work but very attractive. I was really looking forward to talking with her. It turned out she was a monosyllabic moron. I wished I’d never interviewed her. Ignorance had been bliss.
Facebook is pretty much the same. People you think are bright and attractive turn out to have opinions that are ugly; friends you’ve known for years go off like a pork chop at something you posted; a real world conversation at the dinner table turns into later sniping via FB when the disagreeing party has had the chance to google for something to support their POV. I recently blocked the feeds of almost every one of my FB friends and I’d close my account altogether if it wasn’t necessary for my work.
The Thin Man Returns on December 20, 2012 at 10:12 PM
Do adults still use Facebook?
Pork-Chop on December 20, 2012 at 10:13 PM
What’s funny, is the one, surprising, ultra-liberal ‘friend’ who dumped me, dumped me after I embraced the Names he was calling me.
I’d start responding, “Us Extreme Idiots” and then go on to make logical arguments. I guess it was too much for him when I embraced the names instead of refuting them.
jaydee_007 on December 21, 2012 at 11:47 AM
I will say this, I’ve also been pleasantly surprised at how many Old Acquaintences are actually quite conservative and quite vocal about it.
So I have revived and strengthened many old acquaintences.
jaydee_007 on December 21, 2012 at 11:51 AM