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“Boys will ask you every day until you say yes”

posted at 12:14 pm on January 30, 2013 by

Cole Morton comments on the “culture of pornography” and its impact on teenagers in the UK, citing a horrific case in which a 13-year-old girl died trying to convince a boy to delete a video he had made of her performing a sex act on him:

The girls are fast approaching 13, the age that Chevonea Kendall-Bryan was when she leaned out of one of the windows on the fourth floor of a block of flats on this street. A boy she knew was down here on the ground, but this was not Romeo and Juliet. Far from it.

Chevonea had been pressurised into performing a sex act on him, and he had shared a phone clip of her doing so with all his mates. She threatened to jump from the window if he did not delete it. Then she slipped and fell 60 feet to the ground, dying from massive brain injuries. …

“Never before has girlhood been under such a sustained assault – from ads, alcohol marketing, girls’ magazines, sexually explicit TV programmes and the hard pornography that is regularly accessed in so many teenager’s bedrooms,” says the psychologist Steve Biddulph, currently touring the country to promote a book called Raising Girls.

It is a follow-up to his best-seller Raising Boys – and they are under pressure too, being led to believe that girls will look and behave like porn stars. Our children are becoming victims of pornification.

“It is usually girls who are on the receiving end of some pretty degrading stuff,” says Claire Perry MP, who has just been appointed David Cameron’s special adviser on the commercialisation and sexualisation of childhood. “We’ve got young girls being asked to write their names on their boobs and send pictures. Parents would be really shocked to know this is happening in pretty much every school in the country. Our children are growing up in a very sexualised world.”

I’m not suggesting that people demand government intervention or bans on cell phones with cameras, and so on.  But it behooves us to see that cultural degradation has an impact throughout the culture, and that children are not prepared for the consequences.  We need to act within the cultural paradigm to change it, and we need to make sure that we prepare our children and grandchildren for the world that they are entering.

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