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Femisogynists Shocked To Find That They’re Raising Slutty Daughters

posted at 10:13 am on August 13, 2010 by

Originally posted at David Horowitz’s Newsreal:

There’s a new nightmare on the block for femisogynist moms. Now that they’re all grown up and settled down with teenage daughters of their own, they’re shocked to find out that the sexual empowerment they’ve been championing for decades has backfired on them. How has it backfired? Well, the femisogynist moms are finding out that sexual empowerment has really turned their daughters into slutty teens.

Canadian magazine Maclean’s examined the phenomenon in a controversial article titled “Outraged Moms, Trashy Daughters: How did those steeped in the women’s lib movement produce girls who think being a sex object is powerful?” Confused moms who label themselves as feminists can’t understand why their daughters label themselves as sex objects, sleep around, and demean themselves yet call it empowerment.

But the generation that grew up reading Our Bodies, Ourselves is most apoplectic over what they see as the unrelenting pressure on girls to be sexual, and not on their own terms. “I’m so deeply pained to see where women are today and how girls—and I mean girls—are being groomed to believe their purpose in life is to be sexual beings that please men,” says Nancy Vonk, the co-chief creative officer of Ogilvy & Mather in Toronto and the mother of a 16-year-old daughter. Vonk recalls wearing satin hot pants when she was 15. “But it was a different time,” she says. “Back then there was at least equal premium put on intellect and what was in your head. It was the opposite of ‘Go out and please men.’ ”

Kate Lloyd, the director of program and service development for the Learning Disabilities Association of Ontario and an academic coach to teenage girls, says the heightened sexual activity concerns her. “A blow job is just like shaking hands. It’s ridiculous,” she says. “But their attitude is: ‘We’re emancipated; we’re liberated; we’re in control, don’t worry.’ They see being able to hold that type of sexual behaviour over the boys as power; I see it as giving their power away.” But one 19-year-old girl sees the double standard facing girls as more complex. “If men have a lot of sex it’s a good thing, but if women have a lot of sex it’s a bad thing,” she says. “Men have a biological imperative to spread their genes. But that should not be a reason to control women.”

So basically, the 60s era of sexual empowerment was OK, because they weren’t trying to “please men”. They were taking control of their own sexuality. Wearing skanky hot pants was groovy back then. But these girls, they’re just sleeping around! They dress like whores! They’re slaves to the men!

It was just fine for the femisogynists to dress and act like sluts when they were growing up. It’s not OK for their daughters to do it, though. What’s the difference to them, though? And why are they so confused about how it happened?

One culprit for why girls are so hyper-sexualized these days can be traced right back to the extreme sex education being taught in our schools, with the charge being led by femisogynists to keep the sex ed coming. Girls have been taught by the adults in their lives to embrace their sexuality, have been lovingly encouraged to explore their sex lives in new and innovative ways. The feminist extremists gush about the brilliance of giving their daughters vibrators, they teach middle schoolers how to have good sex. Planned Parenthood distributes sexually explicit brochures to Girl Scouts and teach 10-year-olds about anal sex. Children are inundated about sex from extremely young ages about sex, something that the femisogynists encourage, and yet they can’t understand why teenage girls are sleeping around?

Consider how one feminist blog recently praised the sex ed programs in the Netherlands. What exactly does this consist of? Pretty much exactly what you would expect.

Next year, 12-year-old Sasha explains to me, they will learn how to put a condom on a broomstick (she says this without a trace of embarrassment, just a polite smile). Across the city, nine-year-old Marcus, who lives in a beautiful 18th-century house on a canal, has been watching a cartoon showing him how to masturbate. His sister, 11, has been writing an essay on reproduction and knows that it is legal for two consenting 12-year-olds to make love. Her favourite magazine, Girls, gives advice on techniques in bed, and her parents sometimes allow her to stay up to see a baby being born on the birthing channel.

Then there is Yuri, 16, who explains to me in perfect English that “anal sex hurts at the beginning but if you persevere it can be very pleasurable.” When I ask whether he is gay, he says “no” but he has watched a documentary on the subject with his parents.

This kind of sex ed is apparently going to be compulsory for all children beginning at the age of 5 this year in the Netherlands, and this program is being praised as the kind of program we need in the United States.

When this is what we are teaching our daughters, then how can there be any surprise when they turn out to be putting that knowledge to very good use? The other problem is that we have given our children a complete lack of boundaries when it comes to sex. Take abstinence before marriage, for example. It has become socially unacceptable for parents to tell their children to wait until they’re married to have sex. It’s not the “cool” thing to do, just like it isn’t “cool” to expect your high-schoolers not to drink. They’re going to do it anyways, so might as well teach them to be safe, right? But here’s a question.

If we take away the boundary of abstinence before marriage, then what’s the next boundary? 18? OK, so maybe that’s too old. Let’s say 16. But what if the teen says they’re ready for sex at 15? What about 14? Or 13? Where do you draw the line? The reality is that there has to be a line drawn somewhere. It is inappropriate for children to be having sex, but we’ve been indoctrinating our children that sex is OK for decades.

And we’ve also been indoctrinating girls to believe in some other harmful things as well.

The femisogynists gender bigots have been trying fervently to brainwash girls that men are oppressors, that the male patriarchy is trying to keep them down, and that chivalry is sexist. Forget restricting sex to marriage — if you believe all of that, you don’t even need to restrict sex to love. Nowhere in the article did any of the mothers even mention the words “love”, “marriage” or “family.”

The fascist feminists have been engaged in serious social engineering over the past few decades, subverting marriage and family. The word “father” is also noticeably absent. Femisogynists have tried very hard to make sure that fathers no longer have any say in a girl’s sexuality. But now that some of those activists have grown up and started families of their own, they’re realizing that they maybe don’t like the results so much.

And of course, we can’t forget about abortion. Abortion opened the door to sex with no consequences. It opened the door to men being able to use women and not have to deal with the responsibility of the possibility of a child. We let the sex genie out of the bottle, and for a while, femisogynists cheered it. But it seems like some of the femisogynists moms aren’t liking what they’re seeing.

It used to be that men had to prove their love and commitment before having sex. But femisogynists instead told women that they were better than that, that having sex like men made you empowered. Decades later, we’re seeing the results of this social experiment.

It’s ironic, isn’t it, that the very people who manufactured the social experiment are now the ones complaining about how it all turned out — and, as usual, taking absolutely no responsibility for the disaster.

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Ma’am, you always have GREAT columns, thank you for another one!

My daughter and I have long had discussions regarding the absolute fascination some lefties have with the sex lives of others. It’s really rather strange considering they claim to believe in letting folks do what they want when they want and how they want. Yet you don’t seem to find as many conservatives obsessing over the sex lives of others.

Sure, you have folks on the right who are against homosexuality and who believe strongly in abstinence, etc, and are very loud and outgoing about those beliefs. But it seems to be the lefties who can’t just let parents teach their kids about sex in their own way and find it necessary to bleat and blather about the subject non-stop, all the while the kids they’re talking to would rather be on the playground or playing with their toys.

Instead, these “enlightened” libbies seem bound and determined to ensure that every child who is able to walk on their own knows all about every aspect of sexuality, up to and including some of the more distasteful actions. Why is that? Did these folks grow up in homes where they were forbidden to learn about sex? Or is it simply that these folks have an unhealthy obsession with what others are doing and figure they have a right to force that obsession on others?

For a group of people who claim to believe in a person’s right to do what they want how they want, you know, the old “if it feels good, do it” mentality, they just seem awfully bent on making sure everyone does everything the way THEY want.

Pardon me, but I’m an adult, I’ve shown that I can take care of my children properly. In fact, despite the fact that I and my husband have not spent the entire time we’ve raised our kids forcing sex ed down their throats, we’ve managed to raise a daughter who respects herself and hasn’t felt the need to get pregnant by age 20 and a son who hasn’t gone out and impregnated anyone, so far. And I have faith that he respects others enough not to do so.

Neither child has turned into a raving sex fiend, yet they were educated about sexuality by two folks who believe in abstinence and self-respect. They did receive some teaching on the subject in school, but most of their knowledge was given them by us, their parents.

Why is it the left figures they’re better to teach our kids than we are? I’ve seen no evidence to this in our small town. In fact, kids whose parents left it up to the schools to teach them, without any mention of abstinence I might add, seem to have some problems with respecting themselves. And they, usually, seem to be the ones who wind up giving birth in their teens.

I guess I’m just real tired of those on the left who believe I’m too stupid to run my own life. It’s time those on the left quit trying to legislate our lives and found something else to worry about. How ’bout the enormous debt they’ve imposed on our kids? Or how about closing the border so we’re not paying for non-citizens to raise their children on our dime?

Mad Mad Monica on August 13, 2010 at 10:45 AM

…The femisogynists gender bigots have been trying fervently to brainwash girls that men are oppressors, that the male patriarchy is trying to keep them down, and that chivalry is sexist. Forget restricting sex to marriage — if you believe all of that, you don’t even need to restrict sex to love. Nowhere in the article did any of the mothers even mention the words “love”, “marriage” or “family.”…

And while the movements of the femiNazis and leftists attempt to enslave women, the Christian faith REMAINS the most liberating movement for women in all of human history. More evidence of this was found in just the past 5 years as archeologists unearthed the remains of Christian churches that pre-date the Roman Emperor Constantine. See the article found here Early Christian churches held their female members in SUCH high regard, they embedded their names in the floor mosaics of the buildings. I would challenge anyone to show me an earlier movement that held women is such high esteem.

And yes, the Christian church DID lapse on this in later centuries, but ONLY after the Christian faith was rolled over in the Roman government.

My collie says:

Just goes to show what government can do for you.

CyberCipher on August 13, 2010 at 12:10 PM

…there was at least equal premium put on intellect and what was in your head …

Maybe here was, but it was only in the head of the feminists. Certainly boys haven’t changed. They were/are interested in sex, not on debates on Marx vs Lenin.

erp on August 13, 2010 at 12:40 PM

They still today want to act as if it’s 1955 and the sexual revolution never happened. This fills them with a strong desire to “rebel” against what they perceive to be the “restrictive” society, and it blinds them to the abundant evidence of the negative consequences of these things.

joe_doufu on August 13, 2010 at 12:58 PM

Maybe here was, but it was only in the head of the feminists. Certainly boys haven’t changed. They were/are interested in sex, not on debates on Marx vs Lenin.

erp on August 13, 2010 at 12:40 PM

Awww.

uknowmorethanme on August 13, 2010 at 1:04 PM

I posted this in the earlier Headline thread on this topic:

I used to live in one of the most liberal towns in America- Alexandria, VA. And I recall many instances of girls as young as 12 being caught having oral sex, 11-year-olds throwing themselves at boys at Little League games, a mom of a 6th-grade boy being shocked at all the calls her son was getting from girls. With the older teens, drinking and drug use were rampant. I was determined to get my young daughter away from there, and did.

Now I live in a more conservative small town with a large Catholic population. Girls are much more modest and sensible here. My son did have a bad run-in with a slutty girl right after we moved here, and not surprisingly, her mother was a very liberal divorcee who thought it was funny that her 14-year-old daughter was sending pictures of her boobs to boys on her cell phone.

My daughter is 13 now and a good girl, as are her friends. She is not interested in boys yet and has rebuffed a couple who showed interest in her. She is strongly pro-life and says she won’t have sex until she is ready to be a mother, and she wants to get married and have at least 5 children and live on a farm. There are some families around here who let their kids smoke and drink, and she can’t stand them. I tell her all the time that SHE HAS THE POWER with her body, and once she gives it away she can’t get that power, or her self-respect, back.

rockmom on August 13, 2010 at 1:47 PM

There’s human nature, and then there’s leftist theory. Of course teenage girls exercise power with their beauty. They exercise it mostly over teenage boys, whom the normal grown woman will look back on with fond humor, having moved on to a more adult mode of thought and aspiration.

If you recognize the changeless nature of this pattern, you take it in stride and teach your teenage daughter to see both herself AND THE BOYS as moral actors whom respect must be accorded. You don’t tease boys and try to exercise petty power over them, because it’s disrespectful to both of you to do that.

But, of course, if everything is about YOU, and you’ve been encouraged to act out of self-reference and narcissism your entire life, there is no brake at all on your urges when you begin to encounter “what everyone else is doing,” and want to try it yourself.

No one ever actually masters a lifestyle of selfishness, manipulation, and slavery to urges. It isn’t possible for us to be in control of outcomes under those conditions. We only make ourselves more and more miserable, recalcitrant, and unattractive. The mores the radical feminists were so eager to throw away were built around that premise.

J.E. Dyer on August 13, 2010 at 2:50 PM

No one ever actually masters a lifestyle of selfishness, manipulation, and slavery to urges. It isn’t possible for us to be in control of outcomes under those conditions. We only make ourselves more and more miserable, recalcitrant, and unattractive. The mores the radical feminists were so eager to throw away were built around that premise.

J.E. Dyer on August 13, 2010 at 2:50 PM

Very well said. Isn’t it funny how liberals think we are all supposed to have a great social conscience, but when we talk about having an individual conscience, they get all outraged and call us prudes!

rockmom on August 13, 2010 at 3:06 PM

It’s sad that their own children have to be the victims of their upside down moral view.

bitsy on August 13, 2010 at 3:46 PM

I love these sociology posts, but Cassy I just wouldn’t use language that makes you seem mad. Anger really doesn’t solve much.

As to the merits, women have always control sexuality and to a large extent, society’s culture. Men try to get away with as much as they can, but women get the final say. When men are in total control of sexuality, such as gay men, the results are obvious. Right now, liberal women are setting the standard and people are just following their lead. If you truly want to change society, you need to change Hollywood and the content put on TV, both news and entertainment. Otherwise, it’s no use bitching because most people are followers.

One interesting thing I want to point out is what rockmom did. I never thought Alexandria was that bad; I went to school at Georgetown. At least they are having kids, NYC women look down upon that and want their lifestyle. But there’s a book call “The Big Sort” where people move to where like minded people live. That’s why NYC has all the people they have, and TX and the South have the people they have. You can somewhat insulate your kids by where you live and who they hang out with, but the macro trends will keep on going unabated.

TimTebowSavesAmerica on August 13, 2010 at 4:16 PM

There is a birthing channel???

David Shane on August 13, 2010 at 4:27 PM

Good article; I just wouldn’t sound so mad Cassy. It doesn’t solve anything. As to the merits, women have always controlled sexuality and to a large extent culture. To see what the world would look like if men controlled sexuality, just go to a White Party. Anyway, liberal women now control the media and its narrative. If you want to change the direction of society, the only way is to change the movies, news and shows that are put out. Otherwise, the macro trends will continue unabated.

One interesting thing is what rockmom did. There’s a book called “The Big Sort” where people live based on their worldview. Hence, the bohemians in Portland, OR; the silk stocking people in NYC, and conservatives in many other areas. Anyway, an interesting example of that trend, but the macro movement will continue on unless we start changing the media.

TimTebowSavesAmerica on August 13, 2010 at 4:28 PM

Great article, Cassy. I wrote a similar one a couple weeks ago:

http://undoctrination.org/2010/07/21/feminists-newest-enemy-womens-bodies/

RachDubya on August 13, 2010 at 8:36 PM

Moms have a lot of power over how girls grow up to view themselves. One of my sisters has 2 girls, 15 and nigh on 13. These girls wear makeup, lots, have their hair colored &/or highlited, brows waxed, wear contacts (can’t be seen in glasses) all of this is Mom teaching them they have to somehow make themselves better, prettier. She is oblivious to what she is teaching them. The 15 year old is already running wild. Go figure.
My 30 year old goddaughter is pregnant with her first. She wants a boy; she’s afraid of having a trashy daughter. That comment stunned me.
Every day since my son was born, I thank God I had a boy.

Willie on August 13, 2010 at 10:31 PM

Learning about men from feminists is like learning about bicycles from a fish.

KyserS on August 13, 2010 at 10:36 PM

Fantastic article, you hit the feminazis dead between the eyes with that one. Just one minor grammatical correction. About halfway down the page, you have this sentence:

Children are inundated about sex from extremely young ages about sex,

I think you need to remove one of those “about sex”es.

Other than that, GREAT article, I’m gonna go show my wife this one. She read the Macleans article too, and had almost the exact same reaction you did.

wearyman on August 14, 2010 at 8:19 AM

Abortion opened the door to sex with no consequences. It opened the door to men being able to use women and not have to deal with the responsibility of the possibility of a child.

I’ll have to nominally disagree in that it does have consequences, but they are not immediately apparent until years later perhaps.

If this wasn’t so sad, I’d laugh.
Unfortunately, my own daughter, despite having parents who taugh her right from wrong, purposely chose the wrong path to head down.
Now she is a single mother chasing the baby daddy.
There is a whole generation of girls who are using sex to ‘control’ a guy when all it does is prove to the guy she’s a trashy whore.
And they have the audacity to wonder why the guy treats them like he would a prostitute.

Every day since my son was born, I thank God I had a boy.

Willie on August 13, 2010 at 10:31 PM

We have 4 girls. Not saying boys are much better, but the drama young girls create is driving me bat$hit crazy.
Girls are nasty mean creatures.
I see it everyday in my HS classroom.
Guys-well they can be pigs, but you can usually reason with them.
However, there is the feminization of men we’re going through & I see it in some of my male students.
They are now emotionally acting like the girls.
Course we live in a very rural community with lots of hunting etc. & this is usually frowned upon.

Badger40 on August 14, 2010 at 5:04 PM

Now I live in a more conservative small town with a large Catholic population.

rockmom on August 13, 2010 at 1:47 PM

Huh. Well I live in a very rural area, farming & ranching here (as you probably know from my posts) & it is Catholics, Lutherans & a few Baptists thrown in.
From my observations, the Catholic girls are the absolute WORST sluts (at least around here).
The towns around here can be labeled as conservative. And they mostly are.
But as anywhere, you’ve got your doozies.
And perhaps I see it more just bcs there are so few people living out here.
And a lot of these girls sound like your daughter, & they have their parents fooled bcs I see them at school.
And they are not what their mommies & daddies think they are.

Badger40 on August 14, 2010 at 5:10 PM

One culprit for why girls are so hyper-sexualized these days…

Could it be that women enjoy sex? I hate to say it but wouldn’t it explain why women are having more sex is because they want to have more sex and technology, the pill and antibiotics, have decreased the risk of promiscuity?

Either women are mindless automatons, slaves to mass media, who have no control nor responsibility for their actions or they are fully formed adults who act on their desires even when it makes society uncomfortable.

Bill C on August 16, 2010 at 12:56 AM

My 30 year old goddaughter is pregnant with her first. She wants a boy; she’s afraid of having a trashy daughter. That comment stunned me.
Every day since my son was born, I thank God I had a boy.

Willie on August 13, 2010 at 10:31 PM

I’m a tomboy with a 16 y.o. son. I agree.
Btw: Because I have what I now know to be Asperger’s Syndrome
I couldn’t attract my first date until the summer before I turned 20. In hindsight…I’m grateful that it worked out that way.

annoyinglittletwerp on August 16, 2010 at 1:19 AM

From my observations, the Catholic girls are the absolute WORST sluts (at least around here).
The towns around here can be labeled as conservative. And they mostly are.
But as anywhere, you’ve got your doozies.
And perhaps I see it more just bcs there are so few people living out here.
And a lot of these girls sound like your daughter, & they have their parents fooled bcs I see them at school.
And they are not what their mommies & daddies think they are.

Badger40 on August 14, 2010 at 5:10 PM

When I was in high school in the 1980′s supposedly Mother McAuley-a Catholic girls high school in Chicago-had the highest pregnancy rate in the area.
I’m a ‘newbie’ Catholic who loves the Church-but what was…was.

annoyinglittletwerp on August 16, 2010 at 1:24 AM