How About A Nice Helping of Misandry for Father’s Day?

posted at 10:30 am on June 12, 2010 by
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My latest post from Newsreal:

It’s a little over a week before Father’s Day, and The Atlantic has the perfect thought for all of us to ponder over the next week: are fathers really necessary anymore?

In today’s new, “progressive” world, women apparently all understand that they are Super Mom, hear me roar, and that dads are pretty much completely useless. Pamela Paul writes:

Drawing on reliable comparative studies, you could say this: single moms tend to be more involved, set more rules, communicate better, and feel closer to their children than single dads. They have less difficulty monitoring their children’s whereabouts, friendships, and school progress. Their children do better on standardized tests and have higher grades, and teenagers of single moms are actually less likely to engage in delinquent behavior or substance abuse than those of single dads. Go, Murphy Brown.

The quality of parenting, Biblarz and Stacey say, is what really matters, not gender. But the real challenge to our notion of the “essential” father might well be the lesbian mom. On average, lesbian parents spend more time with their children than fathers do. They rate disputes with their children as less frequent than do hetero couples, and describe co-parenting more compatibly and with greater satisfaction. Their kids perceive their parents to be more available and dependable than do the children of heteros. They also discuss more emotional issues with their parents. They have fewer behavioral problems, and show more interest in and try harder at school.

Wow, from the way all of this sounds, maybe we should just cut out men altogether! Since women are the best thing for kids since sliced bread, it’s really best for two lesbians to raise kids! This study has been celebrated by leftists all over the blogosphere the past few weeks, but I can’t help but be cynical. Can two lesbians raise happy, healthy children? Will they have issues growing up? Considering gay parenting is a relatively new phenomenon, it will be quite some time before we can really ascertain the long-term effects on a large scale.

It doesn’t stop gay rights activists from trumpeting this new find. They’re especially enjoying rubbing it in the faces of conservatives who claim that fathers are essential to families. And, right before Father’s Day, we get another study to corroborate the claim that gender does not matter.

There couldn’t possibly be a gay rights agenda being pushed here, could there? It sounds like propaganda straight out of the gay rights lobby. And perhaps for good reason. Let’s take a look at one of the people behind this study, Judith Stacey. She’s a sociology professor at NYU with a focus on “gender; family; sexuality; feminist and queer theory; ethnography.” According to the McMurry University website, her work has focused on the changing of the family structure, and she is an advocate for gay marriage and gay family rights.

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Who needs men anyway? Just start a sperm bank and we can all be eliminated. Besides, men start wars, women solve problems.

codekeyguy on June 12, 2010 at 10:46 AM

Gayness isn’t the only factor driving this idea. It circulates on FaceBook among the femmes who’s multiple failures in the partnership selection process is well documented.

Skandia Recluse on June 12, 2010 at 10:49 AM

Yeah, all those boys being raced by their single mommies are turning out so well.

Disturb the Universe on June 12, 2010 at 10:56 AM

I always say that a mother can not teach a son about masculinity, and a father can not teach feminism to his daughter.

hawkman on June 12, 2010 at 11:02 AM

I always say that a mother can not teach a son about masculinity, and a father can not teach feminism to his daughter.

P.S. Happy Fathers’ day to all…..

hawkman on June 12, 2010 at 11:03 AM

Hmmmm.

I used to have a reverential attitude towards scientists and their pronouncements.

Now?

Meh.

memomachine on June 12, 2010 at 12:48 PM

Yeah, all those young black men in the large urban cities who are “raised” by their “strong” Grandmothers do super well without the oppression of being raised by a “father”!

Just look at their successes: 1)lowest drop out rate of any group. 2) Highest rate of incarceration of any group. 3) lowest life expectancy of any group. 4) Highest unemployment rate of any group.

Bravo!

Opposite Day on June 12, 2010 at 12:51 PM

Sounds like another case of liberal university types “crying wolf” again.

uknowmorethanme on June 12, 2010 at 1:40 PM

First Law of the Left:

There shall be no gods before the Almighty State.

This includes traditional religion, family, and pretty much anything your life might center on outside of the State. I’d say fathers fall into this category, too.

tbrosz on June 12, 2010 at 3:26 PM

my two nephews raised by single moms have both been incarcerated and are genarally a mess i am trying to step in and be that useless father they seem to crave. How come social scientists can prove … well any durn thing they can think of.

odannyboy on June 12, 2010 at 4:51 PM

are fathers really necessary anymore?

The answer to progressives is a resounding no.

They replaced the black father with a welfare check, and rewarded the mother each time she gave birth to another child from a different father.

They are working hard on the rest as we speak. Their goal is to have all the unenlightened dependent on the govt.

rightside on June 12, 2010 at 6:10 PM

So these lesbians are going to raise their sons to believe they’re dispensable, if not worthless? Nice./

Buy Danish on June 12, 2010 at 6:28 PM

I’m gay and I strongly support gay rights. Yet I believe your doubts about this “research” is justified. One group of researchers from Florida State (I believe) contacted my gay Jewish group wanting us to do surveys. They promised only positive outcomes from their research. I was absolutely horrified by such a promise. Since there are some differences between gay and straights, I would fully expect there to be some positive and some negative. Let the chips fall where they may. If the best data show that gay people make lousy orthodontists, then perhaps we should encourage them to do oral surgery instead.
I know that the outcome of these studies become a political game. I fully expect you social cons to try to spin the negatives for gays as more negative than they really are. Just, as I expect the gay rights groups to spin the positives as more positive than they are. We can let our politics sort it out!

thuja on June 12, 2010 at 7:09 PM

So, what about boys?

Raised knowing that they are “unnecessary”?

Why treat women with respect if SCIENCE! shows that women are better off without them? Love ‘em and leave ‘em will be newly regarded as an act of kindness.

Techie on June 12, 2010 at 11:24 PM

Opposite Day on June 12, 2010 at 12:51 PM

The “strong” Grandma just needs to be gay! Then the inner cities would be sunshine and lollipops and the children would all be flying kites…

Joy on June 13, 2010 at 2:57 AM

I fully expect you social cons to try to spin the negatives for gays as more negative than they really are.

thuja on June 12, 2010 at 7:09 PM

Thanks for saving me the trouble of having to actually articulate my honest opinions, since apparently you already know what they’re going to be ahead of time regardless of whether or not we’ve ever spoken in the past.

(rolls eyes)

You were actually on a pretty good roll until you felt obligated to toss that out.

Cylor on June 13, 2010 at 3:13 AM

Drawing on reliable comparative studies

Studies show . . .

When a proposition is prefaced by either of these claims, put on your hip waders. Groups with a political agenda can always dredge up some “scholarly review” to support the cause du jour and set in motion appropriate societal transformations to bring to fruition the findings of the “study”, more often than not plunging us into a miasma of unintended consequences, which will require new “comparative studies” requiring new solutions. “Educators” are the worst, and the government is a close second, hobbled only by bureaucratic inertia.

tpitman on June 13, 2010 at 7:51 AM

The left and feminists have been perverting family, marriage and positions in society for over 60 years. Putting someone else down is not the way to get ahead. We need strong families now more than ever. If you asked a single mom if she would like to meet and marry her dream guy, the answer more often than not would be yes. We were not meant to live our lives alone.

Kissmygrits on June 13, 2010 at 10:53 AM

Dollars to donuts they did not control for socioeconomic status. Gays on average have a higher-than-average SES.

Comparing the kids raised in a brick home by lesbian college professors to kids raised in a trailer by a trucker and his beautician wife is comparing apples and oranges.

Sekhmet on June 13, 2010 at 11:35 AM

I don’t kow where those stats came from but I don’t believe a word of it.

jeanie on June 13, 2010 at 11:49 AM

thuja on June 12, 2010 at 7:09 PM

It’s annoying that politics has anything to do with the actual science aspect. Spinning after is to be expected. That’s the political process. Spinning during or before, just ruins the entire process.

Cylor on June 13, 2010 at 3:13 AM

I think the point of that comment was a completely noncontroversial one, which is that people play up the results of studies that best make their points for them. I don’t even see why you’re offended.

Esthier on June 14, 2010 at 2:24 PM