Oh please, spare me on the commitment and atonement crapola. Yes, it was a commitment in the eyes of God, but what kind of message is going back to the family send to his 4 son’s?

I stayed in a bad marriage, and it damaged my own son’s. When Governor Sanford made that so called called commitment and then brought 4 children into the world, he also made a commitment to raise them properly and in a healthly environment.

It is not healthy for his wife or his family to endure such torture. He needs to resign and his wife needs to think of her children and do the right thing and kick him to the curb for the pain he’s put them thru.

Knucklehead on July 1, 2009 at 10:57 PM

I, and many others, have grown to know that marriage is a sacrament before God, and the experience of God’s creating and saving presence. (I’m presuming that nothing preempts Sanford’s marriage from being a valid marriage.) Reconciliation, another sacrament, is an intensely intimate experience of God’s saving presence. (I’m assuming that Sanford is honest about returning to his marriage, or understands the truth that no future wedding for him will become a valid marriage.) I, and many others, believe that a marriage is not something that breaks, like a civil union with a contract that outlines whys and wherefores and provides escape mechanisms. When you invite God into your marriage, God takes the offer seriously.

Since you stipulated that I “spare [you] on the commitment and atonement crapola” I’m forced to respond with both hands tied behind my back. God’s work is Creation. A marriage created before God is, unless there are false circumstances, a creation that cannot be undone. The children are a creation of God’s that are the product of the marriage. The children are not separate from the marriage and you (“I stayed in a bad marriage, and it damaged my own son’s”) testify that the children are umbilically a part to the marriage. Kind of evokes the image of grapes withering on the vine…

My belief is that preserving the marriage is the responsibility of everyone that is a part of it. In addition to the offspring being part of the marriage, if you invite friends to your ceremony – are they not bound to keeping the marriage alive? I don’t think of you as a bad person, in fact you’re probable a very good one, but I reject that you stayed in a bad marriage and I say that you and your spouse neglected your marriage and your sons witnessed the neglect for the marriage. If Sanford makes the time to focus on his marriage and his faith in God then his children will learn the importance of protecting a marriage before God.

Good Lord, don’t consign Jenny to this. Even Christ was willing to give a pass for adultery. “Fall back in love with her,” indeed — this clown has no idea what love is. Certainly not finding a new way to torture one’s wife every day . . .

loneloc on July 1, 2009 at 9:24 PM

I agree that this clown has no idea what love is, but I’m not sure I’m familiar with the “pass” you attribute Christ giving to an adulterer. I’m familiar with a test the scribes and Pharisees presented to Jesus. We may both be thinking of the same event. The way I understand it, instead of obeying the law to stone the adulterous woman, Christ suggested that those without any sin would throw stones at the woman. With that suggestion, everyone left having thrown no stones. Jesus was left alone with the woman. He asks her where her condemners are to which she replies “there are none.” He says “nor do I condemn you” and tells her to go and sin no more. No “pass” just reconciliation.

If Sanford can, from this point forward, go and sin no more, then that is an action of returning to his marriage. I don’t suggest that all is now great in the household, but now the household will benefit from the attention given towards preserving the marriage. The torturous nature of the repair ebbs as the marriage grows strong, every day…

absolutely *NOTHING* sanford says or does means anything.

for the rest of his *LIFE* (and, very likely, the lives of his children) some rectum (erm, reporter) from the main sewer media will bring up “the mistress”.

sanford’s done.

Mew

acat on July 2, 2009 at 1:47 PM

absolutely *NOTHING* sanford says or does means shit.

for the rest of his *LIFE* (and, very likely, the lives of his children) some asshole from the main sewer media will bring up “the mistress”.

sanford’s done.

Mew

That’s all the reason needed.

Well, for starters, he’s nuts. It’s hard to watch his increasingly surreal press conferences without concluding his mental guitar is missing a few strings.

Is he mad, or desperately in love?

‘Tis all the same.

He needs to atone and return home and repair himself so he can resume the vow. Easy to say – very difficult to do, but a vow is nothing less that a commitment for a lifetime.
ericdijon on July 1, 2009 at 9:12 PM

Oh please, spare me on the commitment and atonement crapola. Yes, it was a commitment in the eyes of God, but what kind of message is going back to the family send to his 4 son’s?

I stayed in a bad marriage, and it damaged my own son’s. When Governor Sanford made that so called called commitment and then brought 4 children into the world, he also made a commitment to raise them properly and in a healthly environment.

It is not healthy for his wife or his family to endure such torture. He needs to resign and his wife needs to think of her children and do the right thing and kick him to the curb for the pain he’s put them thru.

Looking for some summer reading? Coming soon to a bookstore near you. Or a television station. Or radio interview. Basically, wherever Mark Sanford decides to spill his guts again. I agree with Doctor Zero. It’s time for Sanford to leave……

The marriage will always exist; there is no method to void it on conditions amounting to him being a first-class 360 degree jerk.

Good Lord, don’t consign Jenny to this. Even Christ was willing to give a pass for adultery. “Fall back in love with her,” indeed — this clown has no idea what love is. Certainly not finding a new way to torture one’s wife every day . . .

There is no way I think he can serve as Governor; he must resign in shame. Being Governor is a contract with his electorate. He cheated and stole the faith of his constituents. He is not a trustworthy person to enter into a contract with.

To say that in front of the whole world is unforgiveable and he needs to go. And to make it worse, I was hoping he’d make a run in 2012 for Prez. I’m sooo disappointed in this dude.

So, will he put himself in the hospital for some help, or maybe blame it on the good old standby “I’m an alcoholic” excuse to buy some more time?