Video: Would you intervene to stop a woman from beating up a man?

posted at 6:41 pm on May 27, 2014 by Allahpundit

When she’s bullying him, notes the Mirror, passersby are all stares and giggles. When he’s bullying her, things turn serious. Which is … understandable, isn’t it? It’s all about the size differential. The guy is bigger, presumably stronger, and therefore capable of defending himself if things escalate. The woman might not be. (That’s also why the public takes statutory rape of teenagers much more seriously when the offender is male than female.) That calculus would change depending upon how severe the abuse got, though; if the woman knocked the guy down and then started stomping him or beating him with something, I think you’d see people move in. Shoving him around just doesn’t portend the sort of serious injury that’s easily imagined when a man starts getting grabby with a woman.

There’s a good point in the mix here, though, which they should have done more to draw out. Namely, size isn’t everything to the dynamics of abuse. If you have a man who’s passive, for whatever reason, paired with a woman who’s physically aggressive, their psychological interplay may leave him unable to resist taking a beating even though he’s larger and capable of it. This guy’s getting laughed at because he looks wimpy getting pushed around by his girlfriend but there are, no doubt, men who feel paralyzed in situations like this due to their own personality quirks. He can resist, and yet he really can’t. They’re trying with this PSA to make people more aware of that but I think it gets lost in the gimmicky hidden-camera idea.

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OregonPolitician on May 27, 2014 at 9:01 PM

She should be in jail for attempted murder.

terryannonline on May 27, 2014 at 9:04 PM

A manipulative, verbally abusive woman can wreak havoc on anyone over time. Men too, of course, but nothing like a batshit crazy woman.

MT on May 27, 2014 at 9:10 PM

Given my size, I would be very, very slow to physically respond to anyone much smaller who was doing nothing more than shoving. I’m still at work, so can’t watch the video, and don’t know how the abuse progresses. I think that, in many cases, observers wouldn’t respond because they initially assume that a larger male can disengage himself from such a situation easily.

The interesting part is who would consider the question valid, and who would consider the question invalid. There are many folks out there today, who demand that we view males and females exactly the same, no matter what. Those folks would take the topic question as offensive. And I’m 100% sure those folks wouldn’t have the nerve to step up and try to intervene in ANY situation. They are the kind who run from a loud noise, instead of turning toward it.

That’s ok, the wolfhounds need sheep to protect.

Freelancer on May 27, 2014 at 9:26 PM

I think the golden rule would be appropriate in this or any other situation.

Conservchik on May 27, 2014 at 9:52 PM

“Would you intervene to stop a woman from beating up a man?”

Michele or Valerie Jarrett? Obama.s on his own on this one since I’m afraid of both of them. Also, he probably deserves it.

Actually, if the situation were reversed (if you are alone and the people involved are strangers) I would recommend NOT getting involved because it is often a robbery setup (with maybe murder mixed in) or a scam where both parties are involved and sue you ass-off and it is COMMON. Call 911.

MaiDee on May 27, 2014 at 10:40 PM

Who’s asking? Who am I supposed to stop?

flataffect on May 27, 2014 at 11:10 PM

A guy can restrain a girl without hitting her.

terryannonline on May 27, 2014 at 7:36 PM

Restraining someone can leave bruises. Result: jail time for male defender.

Restraining someone even if you are skilled can result in dislocated joints if the attacker is that batshit crazy and determined. Result: jail time for the male defender.

A man can’t simply can’t win even when defending themselves.

aikidoka on May 27, 2014 at 11:28 PM

Restraining someone can leave bruises. Result: jail time for male defender.

Restraining someone even if you are skilled can result in dislocated joints if the attacker is that batshit crazy and determined. Result: jail time for the male defender.

A man can’t simply can’t win even when defending themselves.

aikidoka on May 27, 2014 at 11:28 PM

Yup. This and the video are both part of the ongoing double-standard against men.

Theophile on May 28, 2014 at 1:08 AM

Here’s how the fight goes; deranged out of control woman and a competent (in self defense) man….

Woman swings
Man block/deflects, grab lower arm or wrist as it flies by, twist, snap, fight over.

Explain to cops.
No witnesses, both go to jail, man “falls down stairs”, visits hospital, back to jail.
Man gets 18 months and anger management classes.

Diluculo on May 28, 2014 at 1:10 AM

“Would you intervene to stop a woman from beating up a man?”

Michele or Valerie Jarrett? Obama.s on his own on this one since I’m afraid of both of them. Also, he probably deserves it.

MaiDee on May 27, 2014 at 10:40 PM

Hahaha, that changes everything. I’d let obama knock either/both of them silly, then tell the cops obama went nuts and just started beating them, threatening to murder them in cold blood.

Then I’d upload my video to youtube after editing it a bit.

Diluculo on May 28, 2014 at 1:15 AM

just gotta walk away. it is a no-win situation for guys

uatu1878 on May 28, 2014 at 1:19 AM

I’m a libertarian. I never intervene into anything.

jbspry on May 28, 2014 at 2:20 AM

OregonPolitician on May 27, 2014 at 9:01 PM

You are indeed a victim of severe domestic violence and attempted murder.

Oh, wait — some tough guys on this board will try to tell you that you’re a “beta male” because it makes them seem tougher by comparison. Swell.

bmmg39 on May 28, 2014 at 2:31 AM

The LAW is clear and is not based on a person’s sex — NO ONE – not even a woman – has the right to put their hands on / physically abuse ANYONE else.

easyt65 on May 28, 2014 at 9:18 AM

That’s true in some places, and hopefully the number of police departments that treat situations fairly is on the rise, but too many still automatically consider the larger person to be the aggressor, no matter who is doing what when they arrive.

Men getting abused are pussies

Freeloader on May 28, 2014 at 9:43 AM

Those who call abused men pussies have no real-world experience.

bmmg39 on May 28, 2014 at 5:41 AM

As a by-stander I would probably call the cops…

As ‘The Guy’ this woman ‘attacked’, I would have knocked her on her @$$ after she pushed / hit me.

‘No Win Situation For Guys’?! The LAW is clear and is not based on a person’s sex — NO ONE – not even a woman – has the right to put their hands on / physically abuse ANYONE else. The moment she hits / shoves him he has every right to defend himself…with extreme prejudice. This woman needed to learn that. People need to understand that. Saying ‘the WOMAN gets a pass’ is like saying a ‘minority’ gets a pass or a ‘red-headed deaf mute’ gets a pass. WHAT ‘you’ are doesn’t matter. The POPE could walk up and attack someone and he is breaking the law and the person he attacks is well within their rights to defend themselves.

If he would have knocked her on her butt and I was a by-stander, I would have defended him if/when the cops came.

easyt65 on May 28, 2014 at 9:18 AM

There really is no win for the man in this situation. The worst thing you can do is come to his aid and thereby pronounce judgement on his inability to handle the situation.

Immolate on May 28, 2014 at 9:19 AM

Cannot tell what Campus this is, Rutgers? Brandeis? Columbia? UC Santa Cruz?

Goodie on May 28, 2014 at 9:24 AM

Unless it was Bill Clinton?

Don L on May 28, 2014 at 9:28 AM

I’m a libertarian. I never intervene into anything.

jbspry on May 28, 2014 at 2:20 AM

Isn’t that the same attitude of those Germans who watched the train loads of Jews and shrugged?

Some things are everybody’s business.

Don L on May 28, 2014 at 9:31 AM

Having been in the situation of the man in the video repeatedly, I can say that it is most definitely a no win for the man to defend himself. For those that haven’t watched it, he did try and walk away but was stopped by the woman. Been there, and done that. As a man, you are made to feel even worse by society because you must have deserved it. Or that you are week for letting her do that to you. Any of a thousand different things run thru your head, all of them making you feel smaller and less significant. It can be devastating psychologically. It doesn’t help that no one steps in to help the man, and thus he feels as though he did deserve it.

Just like the women that keep going back to their abusers, men that suffer thru this will find themselves with this same type of woman again and again. And the cycle of abuse continues, with scarce resources for men to get help.

Freed0m28 on May 28, 2014 at 9:31 AM

Men getting abused are pussies

Freeloader on May 28, 2014 at 9:43 AM

“Hi, I’m John Quinones, and I’m from the ABC show What Would You Do?…”

Ward Cleaver on May 28, 2014 at 9:46 AM

My Italian side considers this fore-play. She will pay for this act of aggression in the bedroom…..and like it too.

StubbornGreenBurros on May 28, 2014 at 10:28 AM

Depends. Did the guy get featured in a video entitled “we suck, and we’re sorry”

WryTrvllr on May 28, 2014 at 10:58 AM

A guy can restrain a girl without hitting her.

terryannonline on May 27, 2014 at 7:36 PM

Naive.

CW on May 28, 2014 at 11:21 AM

Shoving him around just doesn’t portend the sort of serious injury that’s easily imagined when a man starts getting grabby with a woman.

So, it’s okay for women to push men around just because they’re smaller? This is pathetic. Either we’re all created equal or we’re not.
Just so you know, I would have knocked her silly if she attempted that on me just the same as if it had been a guy. Women need to start acting and accepting consequences like equals if they ever want to be
“equal”. The days of chivalry are now officially dead due to their sexist nature.

el hombre on May 28, 2014 at 12:28 PM

Frankly, given the likelihood that you can get arrested for defending yourself against a woman, I’d be looking for a way out of the relationship immediately if I had a wife or girlfriend who got violent. Given the taboo against males getting physical with females, if a man gets hit by the woman in his life, he should consider the relationship to be over. Finished. Done. Dump her. Otherwise the relationship becomes one of those power struggles where one person has all the cards.

Aitch748 on May 28, 2014 at 1:05 PM

Let’s make something clear. The law, in the United Kingdom and in the United States and in all other Anglo-phone nations, does not make distinctions based on sex (outside of jury decisions). If real, this assault and battery on each side. They both should be confronted and reported.

I am deeply offended by the women who laugh at this man, who tries to deal with the woman’s rage, but who assert their white female privilege against a man of obvious colour. Good job, ladies. Your bigotry is obvious to everyone. No H8t.

Esaus Message on May 28, 2014 at 3:27 PM

Try it and she’ll turn on you.
Then he’ll turn on you.

Been there, done that, got the scar, honestly I’d call 911 and let her go until she pulled a gun or knife. Then, I’d shoot her if she continued.
No more half measures, I’m out.

Tard on May 28, 2014 at 4:10 PM

He told her to get back in the kitchen.

Decoski on May 28, 2014 at 4:15 PM

No win for a man…you touch her you will go to jail.
Thank the feminists

weedisgood on May 28, 2014 at 4:16 PM

The man doesn’t even have to be wimpy. He just has to be unwilling to hurt something smaller than he is. A lot of men are raised with that code, and I’ve known women who took advantage of it and delighted in pushing because they were sure they wouldn’t be called on it.

Zoomie on May 28, 2014 at 6:21 PM

No, if both are unarmed.

Maybe if she is and he isn’t, depending on whether or not I am.

farsighted on May 28, 2014 at 9:51 PM

When she’s bullying him, notes the Mirror, passersby are all stares and giggles. When he’s bullying her, things turn serious.

Churchill observed that American women bully their husbands.

Churchill’s mother was an American. He had some first hand evidence.

That was quite awhile ago. It has gotten worse. There is a reason why most masculine leading men in Hollywood movies are foreign born.

farsighted on May 28, 2014 at 9:57 PM

Over the years I’ve come to the conclusion that men who are phsically intimidating tend to have stronger control over their physical reactions – they just need to. Not always, of course, but generally. What might be a clownish slap by someone without a lot of strength could, instead, cause injury if done by a strong person, so strong guys can’t afford to lash out.

Tom C on May 29, 2014 at 11:07 AM

No.

ncjetsfan on May 29, 2014 at 3:13 PM

I’d bet that 100% of the domestic violence experienced by men is by the “pajama boy” type of man. Liberals. Have at ‘em.

ncjetsfan on May 29, 2014 at 3:20 PM

You’d lose, Jets Fan. L-O-S-E L-O-S-E L-O-S-E lose lose lose your bet. Any human being can be a victim of abuse.

bmmg39 on May 29, 2014 at 6:43 PM

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