Video: C’mon, America, let’s ban the word “bossy”

posted at 4:01 pm on March 10, 2014 by Allahpundit

We could do that. Or we could get a bunch of fabulously successful women together — say, a former secretary of state and the current COO of Facebook — and have them reassure girls that there’s nothing wrong with being “bossy.” The tagline writes itself: “They used to call me ‘bossy’ and now I’m the boss.” (In fact, Beyonce says almost exactly that at the end here.) Intercut scenes of Sheryl Sandberg chairing a meeting, Condi Rice addressing a big crowd, Beyonce onstage, etc. Wear “bossy” as a badge of pride. Instead of “banning” the word, whatever that means, you take back its power. Instead, this.

Here’s the website, which is co-sponsored by the Girl Scouts. The easy publicity will, I trust, come in handy if/when Sandberg runs for Senate in California in a few years. At the risk of upsetting the Narrative here, we all understand that it’s boys, not girls, who are falling behind in school, yes?

“Girls outperform boys in elementary school, middle school, high school, and college, and graduate school,” says Dr. Michael Thompson, a school psychologist who writes about the academic problems of boys in his book, “Raising Cain.” He says that after decades of special attention, girls are soaring, while boys are stagnating.

“Girls are being told, ‘Go for it, you can do it. Go for it, you can do it.’ They are getting an immense amount of support,” he says. “Boys hear that the way to shine is athletically. And boys get a lot of mixed messages about what it means to be masculine and what it means to be a student. Does being a good student make you a real man? I don’t think so… It is not cool.”…

At some colleges, they’re getting so many more qualified women applicants than men applicants that the schools are doing something that might shock you.

“To make a class that’s 50/50, they’re practicing affirmative action on behalf of boys,” says Thompson. “Girls are so outperforming boys in school right now, one statistician said he took it out to its absurd endpoint and said at the present trend, the last man to get his bachelor’s degree will do so in 2068.”

Nothing wrong with teaching girls to be more assertive, but if you’re looking at classrooms for evidence of gender disparities and the one you seize on has to do with “bossiness,” not the one about a gigantic achievement gap that’s being covered by “60 Minutes” and the New York Times, you might have an agenda you’re pushing.

Exit question: Where’s Hillary? I can’t believe she’d pass on an easy self-promotion opportunity like this.



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Plus they use the same political commercial template that became tiresome ten years ago, different people repeating the same word.
That’s showing some originality.

lowandslow on March 10, 2014 at 5:41 PM

But what if they’re bossy?

JellyToast on March 10, 2014 at 5:43 PM

i have never thought of “bossy” as some kind of sexist phrase. that makes no sense. i’ve seen both boys and girls being called that.

and why should the word be “banned” anyway? it’s a useful word. it describes anyone who is a control freak who insists on giving commands to everyone around them.

this is so stupid. it’s not even that big of a deal, it’s not like “bossy” is some kind of profanity or something.

Sachiko on March 10, 2014 at 5:44 PM

Lana Del Ray wants only men to be called bossy!!!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IE3qtEZdUNU

Nomennovum on March 10, 2014 at 5:45 PM

i have never thought of “bossy” as some kind of sexist phrase. that makes no sense. i’ve seen both boys and girls being called that.

and why should the word be “banned” anyway? it’s a useful word. it describes anyone who is a control freak who insists on giving commands to everyone around them.

this is so stupid. it’s not even that big of a deal, it’s not like “bossy” is some kind of profanity or something.

Sachiko on March 10, 2014 at 5:44 PM

That’s so funny. You’re not thinking like a commy leftist. It’s exactly because the word is useful, meaningful and descriptive it must be eliminated.

You know what the real message of this campaign is? Females are so fragile their whole lives could be ruined if some 6 year old calls them “bossy” in kindergarten.

We see what the left does now to kids whole accidentally shape a pop tart into a blob that might look like a gun.. wait and see what they do to the boys who call girls “bossy.”

Yeah.. my little girl has suffered mentally because your 6 year old called her bossy. I want him arrested, disciplined, suspended and re-educated and receive medication. And I want the label “racist bigot sex offender” permanently placed in his file. That’ll teach him for calling my little Susie a name!

JellyToast on March 10, 2014 at 5:52 PM

My daughter is bossy (I was too at her age). Bossy is bad. Bossy is telling people what to do, usually just to feel like you’re in charge. It often involves losing context, i.e. issuing orders with no reasons, and often a lack of authority to be issuing orders in the first place.

We tell our kids to not be bossy, but to be good leaders. It involves knowing you should say “For this game you need to stand here.” instead of “YOU, STAND HERE.” And telling others, “That’s dangerous/against the rules” not just “stop that!”. It’s setting good examples and earning authority rather than just telling people what to do.

I am not surprised that feminists would have a hard time with the word, after all they tend to be bossy.

MC88 on March 10, 2014 at 5:55 PM

Oh, Condi…

The Ugly American on March 10, 2014 at 5:57 PM

That’s so funny. You’re not thinking like a commy leftist. It’s exactly because the word is useful, meaningful and descriptive it must be eliminated.

You know what the real message of this campaign is? Females are so fragile their whole lives could be ruined if some 6 year old calls them “bossy” in kindergarten.

JellyToast on March 10, 2014 at 5:52 PM

I disagree (though not in spirit). I think leftists honestly don’t understand the difference between being bossy and being a boss. Just like they don’t understand the difference between someone who earns money and someone who steals it. Or someone who went to school and people who actually know things.

Leftists often don’t understand the idea of EARNING a position that gives you the right to tell people what to do, and DEMANDING people do what you say at the threat of tantrum. Heck it is via tantrums that most of their policy is enacted.

MC88 on March 10, 2014 at 6:01 PM

Where’s Hillary?

What difference does it make?

;-)

Kingfisher on March 10, 2014 at 6:06 PM

Why am I not surprised one of the trolls actually showed up to defend this idiocy?

CurtZHP on March 10, 2014 at 6:15 PM

“Ban Bossy” is brought to you by the same people who brought you “Sarah Palin is a c**t.”

myiq2xu on March 10, 2014 at 6:16 PM

MC88 on March 10, 2014 at 6:01 PM

Well.. honestly, I think there are two groups. You have the leaders of the movement and then you have the useful idiots who can’t think beyond the script put in their hands.

This could be either of those two groups.

The left wants to ban speech so why not start with protecting the children. Throw some things up against the wall and see if it sticks.
The word “bossy” is destroying innocent little girls. We must ban it for the sake of all children. Forward!

If the movement gains traction.. throw in a whole host of other words. then, of course.. we must have penalties. Here’s the fun part… inflicting the pain to those who dare speak the unspeakable words. Re-educations, sensitivity trainings, fines, counseling, therapies, forced medication, control control control.

Then you have the other group. Stupid people who just go around with jello for brains. “Yeah.. it’s so mean to be called a name! We need a law! Stop the hate!”

JellyToast on March 10, 2014 at 6:18 PM

Next word on the chopping block: nagging.

Zoomie on March 10, 2014 at 6:18 PM

I guess I’ll just have to stick with my pejorative of choice: PUSHY BROAD.

CurtZHP on March 10, 2014 at 6:19 PM

Honestly… I can’t see how you could be much of a boss of anything for very long.. whether it’s the local uni-mart or the CEO of a major corporation… if you couldn’t even handle being called “bossy.”

There are all kinds of rotten names (deserved or not) bosses have been called. “Bossy” just doesn’t top the list, if you know what I mean.

JellyToast on March 10, 2014 at 6:21 PM

Udderly ridiculous.

antipc on March 10, 2014 at 6:25 PM

It’s time to stop the LEFT from trying to reshape and direct the English language, and through that, the culture and society.

Who are they to determine which words are allowed and which are disallowed?

Even as children Americans have been taught for generations “Sticks and stones may break my bones… but names will never hurt me.”

It’s a sad state of affairs when fully grown adults lack the insight, maturity, and courage, of a nursery school aged child.

When I was a child, being small, even for my age, I knew that if I wanted the boys in my neighborhood to let me join them when they played basketball, baseball, etc., many of whom were a couple of years older and all of whom were physically larger, I had to be tougher and use my wits to compensate for my lack of physical strength. I couldn’t cry if I got hurt unless something was broken or bleeding, and I had to use the advantages I did have, like being quicker and having a lower center of gravity, to my advantage. This wasn’t so much because I was a girl, but because of my physical stature, and besides, who wants to play with a ‘cry baby’? As a result, I got picked when they chose up teams and the guys used to stop by when they wanted to get a basketball or baseball game together, shoot marbles, go sledding, etc.

Those lessons and experiences have served me well the rest of my life.

Leave the kids, and the English language, alone, LEFTY.

thatsafactjack on March 10, 2014 at 6:28 PM

If I hear anybody from Arizona say “bossy” I’m going to boycott the state.

Mark1971 on March 10, 2014 at 4:20 PM

I’M FROM ARIZONA…BOSSY…BOSSY…BOSSY!! ;-)

And as one who was called bossy often as a child, I considered it a badge of honor. But then, I never played the victim or looked for excuses not to succeed.

Whole lot of stupid here. Looks like the scouts need a distraction.

soozq on March 10, 2014 at 4:25 PM

I posted this article on FB and dedicated it to all my “bossy” female friends and made this comment:

I guess I’m just old school, all the women I have known that are my age if you told them they were “bossy” they would look at you and say “hell yes I am bossy ’cause I’m the boss so what’s your point?”

To which one of my “bossy” female friends replied “YUP!!”

This lady needs to get a life and get over it!!

Liberty or Death on March 10, 2014 at 6:33 PM

Darn libertarians.

Murphy9 on March 10, 2014 at 6:34 PM

What word/phrase shall we ban next? Control freak?

farsighted on March 10, 2014 at 7:03 PM

How can I get a duplicate comment warning when I haven’t posted a comment yet on the thread?

farsighted on March 10, 2014 at 7:05 PM

Can we ban the words “tea-bagger?”

JellyToast on March 10, 2014 at 7:14 PM

Shut the hell up. Bossy Wench.

TX-96 on March 10, 2014 at 7:22 PM

They want to ban the use of certain words, because “words matter”. Consider that, possibly, the people who choose to use “bossy” use it because “words matter” to them too! She wants to ban the word “bossy”? I haven’t read the comments yet, and I’m sure this has been said a dozen times already, but, I’ll say it — what a bossy b!tch she is.

LashRambo on March 10, 2014 at 8:03 PM

I saw this on the Google page, and looked at it, and wondered who had an axe to grind about the word “bossy.” Nobody uses that word in my family. They would be more explicit. I think we would not like a boy who was bossy either. Bossy is really close to bully, isn’t it?

Fleuries on March 10, 2014 at 8:29 PM

Nobody likes being “bossed”. They like being led. As soon as women stop needing someone to boss them into being bossy, and learn how to lead (like most actual women leaders have learned to do), then we have something meaningful to talk about.

Real women don’t need Beyoncé to tell them how to live.

spmat on March 10, 2014 at 8:33 PM

This video is utter bullsh*t.

What’s the matter with Rice??

They still don’t like you at Rutgers.

Sherman1864 on March 10, 2014 at 9:23 PM

What a stupid campaign.

I have had women bosses and I respected them and their abilities. None of them had gotten into their position by accident.

I have had co-workers who were not in positions of management who seemed to think they should issue orders. They were “bossy” and I used that word to describe them.

So, we use this word when people who have no authority or standing try to issue orders to the rest of us. Which sounds like libs.

So you see the problem……..

goflyers on March 10, 2014 at 9:30 PM

Apparently we’ve solved all the country’s problems that we’re dedicating resources to this.

eaglephin on March 10, 2014 at 10:31 PM

My collie says:

Let’s recognize this for what it is, viz. a blatant and flagrant attack on the 1st amendment of the Constitution. The people pushing this aren’t JUST un-American, but they are, in fact, frickin’ Nazis. And they should be treated accordingly.

By God, I feel sorry for these femiNazis, I really do.

CyberCipher on March 10, 2014 at 10:35 PM

#LIB

Robert_Paulson on March 10, 2014 at 11:43 PM

This newspeak nonsense is getting old.

mizflame98 on March 10, 2014 at 11:48 PM

“I’m not bossy…..I’m the boss.” WTH does that mean??

Condi, what are you doing? Why? This is so…..pathetically beneath you. I’m so disappointed.

And nope. Can’t have it all. Not without day-care, extended relatives and/or a house-husband. This misguided attempt at life-coaching advice has been misleading young women for years. Trying to be the perfect mom and working woman leaves you too exhausted to be either.

ImmigrantsWife on March 10, 2014 at 11:50 PM

Our country is going right down the s***ter and this is what people choose to focus on.

Awesome.

We deserve to be flushed.

Metro on March 11, 2014 at 12:14 AM

I’m bossy. Put an icepack in your drawers and suck it up.

CantCureStupid on March 11, 2014 at 12:37 AM

and why should the word be “banned” anyway? it’s a useful word. it describes anyone who is a control freak who insists on giving commands to everyone around them.

Now, what segment of the populace does that describe to a “T”? You just answered your question.

98ZJUSMC on March 11, 2014 at 1:37 AM

A bunch of bossy women bossing us around.

djl130 on March 11, 2014 at 7:36 AM

Make me a sammich while yer not doin’ nothin’.

Akzed on March 11, 2014 at 8:49 AM

Banning the word bossy is so GAY

truerino on March 11, 2014 at 9:51 AM

Hey if we’re banning words now I’ve got a few I’d like to nominate.

1.Whom
Worthless word that only adds unnecessary complication to the already complicated English language.

2.Irregardless
I’d like to ban this word because it isn’t really a word but just about everybody uses it anyway. I say ban it! But then I may be just being bossy.

3.Awesome
It just irritates me.

4.Whatever
No explanation needed.

Oldnuke on March 11, 2014 at 9:59 AM

Language police?… Double plus un-good.

strickler on March 11, 2014 at 10:08 AM

Isn’t telling someone not to use the word “bossy”, kind of, well, BOSSY!?!?!?

ladyingray on March 11, 2014 at 10:09 AM

Is the word “Diva” still ok to use?

How about that word that starts with a ‘b’ and rhymes with witch?

strickler on March 11, 2014 at 10:15 AM

Like I care if they ban Bossy.

So long as Uppity and Twatus are still on the board, I’m in business!

thejackal on March 11, 2014 at 10:24 AM

I am woman
Hear me whine

Bevan on March 11, 2014 at 10:37 AM

Hmmmmmmm,….. Check out the graphics used on both sites:

http://l.barackobama.com/truth-team/entry/the-life-of-julia/

http://banbossy.com/

More than a coincidence?

cinnabar on March 11, 2014 at 10:46 AM

I’m all for wimmenses being leaders and all, but when they start complaining about “not enough girl Legos”, that’s where I draw the line. Gdmmit, leave my Legos alone!!@

NOMOBO on March 11, 2014 at 11:18 AM

we all understand that it’s boys, not girls, who are falling behind in school, yes?

But that is in spite of sexism in this nation, that yes, still exists. Women still have to fight double standards and stereotypes.

If a man acts “bossy,” people think he’s a take charge guy, a real leader. When a female acts the same way, she gets the “b-tch” label.

Women who were raised in conservative Christian homes, particularly in Baptist, reformed, or evangelical backgrounds, such as myself, are brought up from childhood to be passive, not assertive. They are taught that “biblical womanhood” (known as “gender complementarianism”) means that they are secondary to males, that males should be in power and control and be the final decision makers about everything.

Also, certain behaviors are taught to be biblically feminine, such as, be quiet, be sweet all the time, always put other people first (never try to get your own needs met), and be passive. In other words, some of the very traits of codependency are being taught as being “biblical” for women.

Some Christians push these doctrines not just on husband-wife relationships, but to father-daughter, and some, to any and all other male-female, and some want to see it pushed into the secular sphere (such as the workplace).

Women are still having to navigate 1950s attitudes towards what is considered “feminine” and proper for a woman, even in 2014.

TigerPaw on March 11, 2014 at 11:24 AM

‘Cuz prohibiting people from saying a word doesn’t make you look bossy at all.

mikesixes on March 11, 2014 at 11:29 AM

Methinks she doth protest too much.

Herod on March 11, 2014 at 11:31 AM

My daughter is bossy (I was too at her age). Bossy is bad. Bossy is telling people what to do

I did not watch the video, but I am guessing they mean “bossy” in the “being assertive” sense, in which case, as I said above, even in today’s culture, especially in conservative Christian (evangelical/ Baptist/ an Reformed who buy into “gender complementarianism” – I was raised in such a family), that is accurate.

Women in a lot of families and churches are being taught in this day and age that being assertive is wrong, bad, or selfish, and it’s something that only males are to do.

TigerPaw on March 11, 2014 at 11:32 AM

TigerPaw on March 11, 2014 at 11:24 AM

Wow, so, I guess mom and dad are just thrilled to death with how you turned out, huh?!

Akzed on March 11, 2014 at 11:33 AM

TigerPaw on March 11, 2014 at 11:24 AM

Your individual example is just that, an individual example. Let me give you my individual example.

My wife was brought up in a similar household as yours. She is quite assertive, nobody tells her what to do. She is also respectful of my needs and desires. She does not “boss” anyone around, and does not allow anyone to “boss” her around. She is quite feminine, and knows how to be an accomplished woman. She is not quiet, but certainly not boistrous.

Your description of biblecally taught behavior, although it may have happened to you that way, is not the norm in this country, and has not been the norm for 40 years or more. At this point, if a woman cannot be a leader, it’s because she, individually, does not have the innate ability to be a leader. In other words, quit whining.

NOMOBO on March 11, 2014 at 11:56 AM

We already banned one word, “The Enn Word,” which is banning one word too many.

There’s lots of words I don’t use. There are no words that should be banned.

Once upon a time, the ACLU agreed with me.

notropis on March 11, 2014 at 12:17 PM

known as “gender complementarianism”

**************

known to who? or whom?

Even my spellchecker doesn’t know it.

notropis on March 11, 2014 at 12:19 PM

TigerPaw on March 11, 2014 at 11:32 AM

Anyone who would use a term like “gender complementarianism” is not to be taken seriously, because she takes herself waaay to seriously already.

Akzed on March 11, 2014 at 12:23 PM

known to who? or whom? Even my spellchecker doesn’t know it. notropis on March 11, 2014 at 12:19 PM

Brilliant we are both!

Where’d she go? I was going to try to get her at least barefoot and in the kitchen by the end of the thread.

Akzed on March 11, 2014 at 12:25 PM

Bossy would end up like the “N” word and only be applied to certain people under certain circumstances. The rules for this will be announced when the rules for the “N” word are published.

mixplix on March 11, 2014 at 12:38 PM

“bossy” is offensive? How about “domineering” and “dictatorial”? Are they next? These intolerant, overbearing word-banners are emotionally dysfunctional.

non-nonpartisan on March 11, 2014 at 12:41 PM

The left, day by day, is becoming the caricature that they have of the right.

29Victor on March 11, 2014 at 1:06 PM

Ban the word “bossy”?

Are you freaking kidding me?

Our culture is dying, rotting from the inside. This country is just sick that this kind of pile of possum bleep is even considered credible. These bossy clowns should be laughed at, ridiculed and mocked from every street corner.

Oh, wait……then the LYNCH MOB MEDIA would come after the person or group that did it.

I forgot how this game is played.

So back to my earlier comment.

America = Dead

PappyD61 on March 11, 2014 at 1:23 PM

TigerPaw on March 11, 2014 at 11:24 AM

Quit whining.

ThePrimordialOrderedPair on March 11, 2014 at 1:47 PM

Jack Bauer will not be happy.

HopeHeFails on March 11, 2014 at 3:31 PM

Ha! When little girls stop being bossy then we’ll stop calling them bossy. Ain’t gonna happen.

Galtian on March 11, 2014 at 3:57 PM

C’mon, America, let’s ban the word “bossy”

So would they prefer the term “controlling” or “pushy”?

jix on March 11, 2014 at 4:32 PM

Quit trying to run my life, I won’t call you “bossy.” Simple concept.

TQM38a on March 11, 2014 at 7:50 PM

If a man acts “bossy,” people think he’s a take charge guy, a real leader. When a female acts the same way, she gets the “b-tch” label.

TigerPaw on March 11, 2014 at 11:24 AM

The fact that someone got you to not only swallow but also regurgitate this tired old feminist tripe suggests an appalling lack of critical thinking skillls, to say nothing of your powers of observation. If men who acted bossy gained respect, society would not function, since bossy people produce nothing and are often actively detrimental to things getting accomplished.

Real leaders of either gender do not gain respect by being bossy.

If you opened your ears and listened to how people actually describe bossy men, you would notice that in lieu of the “b”-words, people usually call bossy men words like “d*ck”, “tool”, “@sshole”, and “douche-bag”, among many others. If the feminazi word police would rather, in the name of gender equality, have people called them those words when they act bossy, then they should say so – perhaps we can work something out.

Other than that, I’d respectfully invite them to STFU and go iron my shirt, then get into the kitchen and make me a sammich. I would normally never treat another human being in that way, since that kind of behavior has always seemed a bit bossy to me, but apparently, it’s actually just me being a take-charge leader.

RINO in Name Only on March 11, 2014 at 8:21 PM

Other than that, I’d respectfully invite them to STFU and go iron my shirt, then get into the kitchen and make me a sammich. I would normally never treat another human being in that way, since that kind of behavior has always seemed a bit bossy to me, but apparently, it’s actually just me being a take-charge leader.

RINO in Name Only on March 11, 2014 at 8:21 PM

ROFLMAO :) like literally :)… i don’t know why I have this feeling that after reading your post T-Paw will start a campaign to ban the word ‘sammich’ :)…

jimver on March 12, 2014 at 3:34 AM

How about banning these words:

B****
F***
M***** F*****
C***

I can handle Bossy, but those other words I can do without in my life.

Chisam Robert on March 12, 2014 at 9:51 AM

Eh, all the girls I knew growing up who were called bossy were literally being gratuitously bossy. They just enjoyed telling everyone else what to do. Clearly that works for some people, as those are the types who often pick leadership positions, but can we no longer call a spade a spade?

Also, how about teaching women that they don’t have to turn into witches when they get into leadership positions? I’ve known several incredibly nice women who turned into absolute monsters once given authority, and it wasn’t because it was the only way they could earn respect, though it’s possible they might have seen it that way, which can easily be blamed on this whole victimization culture.

Esthier on March 12, 2014 at 11:36 AM

Esthier on March 12, 2014 at 11:36 AM

Typically what women do when they must manage men is affect men’s worst traits.

Akzed on March 12, 2014 at 11:51 AM

Hey Wait!

If the FemLibs outlaw “Bossy”, what am I gonna call our milk cow?

WestTexasBirdDog on March 12, 2014 at 4:21 PM

I got your Bossy, right here:
http://www.bossythecow.com/Bossy%20In%202004.jpg

chuckh on March 13, 2014 at 12:23 PM

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