Video: The unlikeliest friendship

posted at 6:41 pm on February 4, 2014 by Allahpundit

Not our usual palate-cleansing fare, but I think you’ll prefer it to a movie trailer.

Have any of you seen this before, incidentally? The clip’s from 2011, it turns out, but it was new to me and to the Today show, which did a full write-up yesterday. A lovely interlude if you can spare the time.


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…take the time!…thank you AP!

KOOLAID2 on February 4, 2014 at 7:00 PM

Wow. Incredible. Thank you AP…

OmahaConservative on February 4, 2014 at 7:01 PM

beautiful…

renalin on February 4, 2014 at 7:02 PM

This vid clip is long, but well worth the watch…

OmahaConservative on February 4, 2014 at 7:03 PM

I watched the whole thing. Very moving indeed. Certainly the driver in this case is less blameworthy than in a DUI. Being more tired than you realize after a 24-hour shift as a fireman is a lot more forgivable than downing 12 beers and being too stupid to call a cab.

All that said, I’ve never been too keen on the idea that no matter how awful a thing happens, that it must be G-d’s plan and therefore it was meant to be. Isn’t it possible that bad stuff happens because people have free will and are therefore free to make crappy and/or highly unfortunate decisions? It’s a big complex universe and somehow I just don’t believe every traffic accident is preordained.

SoRight on February 4, 2014 at 7:04 PM

Thank you AP. I will share this. Some real food for thought here… I hope you think so too.

Marcola on February 4, 2014 at 7:05 PM

I saw this video last week. It brought tears to my eyes. What an awesome witness of God’s power to have good come out of tragedy!

annoyinglittletwerp on February 4, 2014 at 7:07 PM

Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: [For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever.] Amen.

For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.

Consider that the Lord’s prayer, which is about several things including forgiveness, is summarized by the Lord with an injunction to forgive.

Akzed on February 4, 2014 at 7:08 PM

Isn’t it possible that bad stuff happens because people have free will and are therefore free to make crappy and/or highly unfortunate decisions? It’s a big complex universe and somehow I just don’t believe every traffic accident is preordained.

SoRight on February 4, 2014 at 7:04 PM

I believe this also.

We were expelled from the perfect place because of our sin.

The world, is full of pain. We car not sheltered from it.

portlandon on February 4, 2014 at 7:09 PM

It’s a rare story when I feel bad for both sides. The reconciliation was nice to see.

kpguru on February 4, 2014 at 7:18 PM

All that said, I’ve never been too keen on the idea that no matter how awful a thing happens, that it must be G-d’s plan and therefore it was meant to be.
SoRight on February 4, 2014 at 7:04 PM

I hear ya.
I watched and listened very closely, and methinks what’s implied about this being God’s will is more like His will was being carried out, after such a tragedy. His will being that it drew both men closer to Him, NOT farther away, and to prove that He’s always in the healing business.
:-)
Super story.

pambi on February 4, 2014 at 7:25 PM

what’s implied about this being God’s will is more like His will was being carried out, after such a tragedy. His will being that it drew both men closer to Him, NOT farther away, and to prove that He’s always in the healing business. pambi on February 4, 2014 at 7:25 PM


That is extremely insightful.

Akzed on February 4, 2014 at 7:31 PM

Thank you for posting this, Allahpundit. I admit I’m curious as to what attracted you to it, since it’s obviously a Christian story.

Isn’t it possible that bad stuff happens because people have free will and are therefore free to make crappy and/or highly unfortunate decisions? It’s a big complex universe and somehow I just don’t believe every traffic accident is preordained.

SoRight on February 4, 2014 at 7:04 PM

Matthew 5:44-46
“But I say to you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven; for He causes His sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. For if you love those who love you, what reward do you have? Do not even the tax collectors do the same?”

We live in a fallen world, but that doesn’t preclude God taking horrible things and making something beautiful out of it. He does it everyday with those of us who call upon His name.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nJ4yNYY1hHM

theotherone on February 4, 2014 at 7:31 PM

I watched and listened very closely, and methinks what’s implied about this being God’s will is more like His will was being carried out, after such a tragedy. His will being that it drew both men closer to Him, NOT farther away, and to prove that He’s always in the healing business.
:-)
Super story.

pambi on February 4, 2014 at 7:25 PM

Interesting point, and that I can get behind. Even a non-believer would likely have to agree that but for each man’s belief in G-d this friendship never would have come about.

I do hope though that if the deaths had come about because of malice (i.e. DUI) that the husband would have reacted differently. It’s easy to see how keeping a decent man who made an honest albeit tragic mistake in a role that allows him to save lives and help others is a better outcome than being consumed by hate. But if the perpetrator were a repeat offender drunk driver out on a bender then I’d hope the husband would have done everything possible to see that he was locked up and died in prison.

By the way, I appreciate the civility with which my remarks have been treated.

SoRight on February 4, 2014 at 7:32 PM

First,

As a great man once said, remember me as I am — filled with murderous rage.

which seemed rather like Bishop, actually. And now this?

Who are you and what have you done with the Allahpundit?

wolfsDad on February 4, 2014 at 7:35 PM

I watched and listened very closely, and methinks what’s implied about this being God’s will is more like His will was being carried out, after such a tragedy. His will being that it drew both men closer to Him, NOT farther away, and to prove that He’s always in the healing business.

pambi on February 4, 2014 at 7:25 PM

I just went back to see what had given me that sense and it was the 3×5 card business. Erik said that we tend to be focused on how our little snapshot view is doing, but that G-d paints on a much larger canvas, the size of the universe. It’s that notion that rubbed me the wrong way I think. I don’t think June died because G-d made it so on His canvas. I think June died because Matthew made a mistake. Erik’s willingness to forgive Matthew is a testament to Erik’s humanity and his faith for sure and it’s an indication of the very positive influence his faith and his G-d have had on his life.

In the absence of a belief that this tragedy was Matthew’s doing, I don’t know how I could accept that someone who had done the same thing through more reckless means deserves harsh punishment. If G-d painted it that way on a universe-sized canvas than what ability would some pathetic little human drunkard have to stop it?

SoRight on February 4, 2014 at 7:43 PM

Allahpundit? ……. Wow.

Thanks for posting this video. I hadn’t heard of their story. Powerful beyond measure. Only God and the healing power of Christ can enable us to forgive like that. Amazing.

conservative pilgrim on February 4, 2014 at 7:46 PM

.. If G-d painted it that way on a universe-sized canvas than what ability would some pathetic little human drunkard have to stop it?
SoRight on February 4, 2014 at 7:43 PM

I believe pastor Eric said he was shown that WE HUMANS see things as if on 3×5′s, not that God has things all planned out, written on them.
Fallen world concepts completely valid, here.
We just need to seek His thoughts to not only see a bigger (than 3×5′s), but also to proceed without bitterness, UNforgiveness, etc … Even IF caused by a drunken sot.

pambi on February 4, 2014 at 8:02 PM

What an amazing story – cried through the whole thing.

Faith in God is an amazing thing to have.

gophergirl on February 4, 2014 at 8:12 PM

Good stuff.

Midas on February 4, 2014 at 8:15 PM

SoRight, are you familiar with the Dallas Cowboys recent DUI/death case ?
I do believe Eric would have proceeded with a DUI case, but also with the forgiveness part, as has that victim’s mother, there.
Probably would have meant a lot more introspection, but I think forgiveness still would have reigned.
:-)

pambi on February 4, 2014 at 8:19 PM

pambi on February 4, 2014 at 8:02 PM

I like your original observation much better.

Another good analogy (I always thought) is needlepoint. We see it from beneath where it is almost impossible to interpret and far from beautiful, but from above it is intelligible and beautiful.

Your observation, however, will be shamelessly cribbed by me and used repeatedly without accreditation.

God gave our parents a choice: “live within my will or outside it.” Their choice was graphically illustrated by their banishment from Paradise, where only the will of God is allowed and nothing else.

Outside the garden, however, was an altar; a place where God’s will could be done, Gen. 4:3-5. Little else outside the garden could be considered God’s will, but an acceptable offering was a sure thing.

A trespass is outside of God’s will, but Christ would have us do His will in response to a trespass, as you pointed out. So regardless of what offenses we suffer that are necessarily contrary to God’s will, we are enjoined to do the will of God in response.

God forbade vengeance against Cain for his actions outside of God’s will, so regardless of what we might think of it, it was God’s will that we not punish Cain. So we must, in response to events outside His will, respond in obedience to Him and forgive.

This must be developed in consideration of Gen. 9′s eventual mandate for capital punishment, but also in consideration of the priestly Cities of Refuge provision for manslaughter. Very fertile ground you’ve broken in the fallow edges of my mind.

Akzed on February 4, 2014 at 8:23 PM

Thank you AP. I’ve been following you since you were “in the house”. Great post.

ulyses on February 4, 2014 at 8:25 PM

xoxo Akzed. No problemmo. Also …

Another good analogy (I always thought) is needlepoint. We see it from beneath where it is almost impossible to interpret and far from beautiful, but from above it is intelligible and beautiful.

Precisely how He showed me the big picture, too !!
Truly !

pambi on February 4, 2014 at 8:32 PM

All that said, I’ve never been too keen on the idea that no matter how awful a thing happens, that it must be G-d’s plan and therefore it was meant to be. Isn’t it possible that bad stuff happens because people have free will and are therefore free to make crappy and/or highly unfortunate decisions? It’s a big complex universe and somehow I just don’t believe every traffic accident is preordained.

SoRight on February 4, 2014 at 7:04 PM

I don’t think June died because G-d made it so on His canvas. I think June died because Matthew made a mistake.

SoRight on February 4, 2014 at 7:43 PM

Have you considered that His plan was carried out through Matthew’s mistake? There’s a difference between causing things to happen and allowing things to happen (with foreknowledge) through mankind’s free-will but either can still be considered His plan.

Lost in Jersey on February 4, 2014 at 8:34 PM

gophergirl on February 4, 2014 at 8:12 PM

Wish I could cry, never could, not even when my mother died, not even when my cousin, who was a sister to me, died in my arms when we were in our 20s, she ravaged with cancer, not even my best friend who was murdered by the Russian mafia because he refused to fake invoices. The tears just never come, maybe because I know the ones taken are with God and that’s a better place. Maybe it’s because people cry in different places which no one else can ever see. This video made me cry in one of those places.

TXUS on February 4, 2014 at 8:35 PM

TXUS on February 4, 2014 at 8:35 PM

Wow, many experiences I’ve never had , but you are not alone.
Tears are precious to Him, and warranted when He Himself touches us.

pambi on February 4, 2014 at 8:47 PM

Thanks for posting AP. I’m forwarding on to many. It always helps to stoke the flames of God’s hope for us.

Wileygrl3 on February 4, 2014 at 8:47 PM

Allah,

There is obviously Hope for you yet,Son. A wonderful story to tell. The Lord is watching over you, no matter how you truly feel about Him. And I think you have always felt pretty good about him, too. Whether you know it yourself or not.

God bless You, youngster.

Subsunk

Subsunk on February 4, 2014 at 8:55 PM

Maybe it’s because people cry in different places which no one else can ever see. This video made me cry in one of those places.

TXUS on February 4, 2014 at 8:35 PM

I think your tears may come out in your words. Beautifully written.

Great thing about faith in God – we all express it in a different way and it’s all beautiful to him.

gophergirl on February 4, 2014 at 8:56 PM

Forgiveness heals.
Always.

pambi on February 4, 2014 at 9:00 PM

“Unforgiveness is like drinking a poison and expecting the other person to die from it!”

Those words from Rabbi Marc Gellman

pambi on February 4, 2014 at 9:11 PM

Decent people behaving decently. This used to be the norm and not something that “goes viral.”

I don’t want to take away from how very hard it is to forgive in these situations but accidents do happen. God bless all those involved.

Happy Nomad on February 4, 2014 at 10:05 PM

I found it interesting that they were both Christians.

Cleombrotus on February 4, 2014 at 10:26 PM

God is great.

dpduq on February 4, 2014 at 11:47 PM

Akzed, I just remembered that I’ve been RE-reading “There Were Two Trees in the Garden” by Rick Jordan.
Good stuff in there.
:-)

pambi on February 5, 2014 at 12:27 AM

Forgiveness: Powerful for what it does for the forgiver, as much as the forgiven.

BigAlSouth on February 5, 2014 at 6:11 AM

pambi on February 5, 2014 at 12:27 AM

Stupid auto-fill …

Rick Joyner.

pambi on February 5, 2014 at 8:21 AM

I applaud Erik for having the strength through God to forgive and befriend the man who caused such grief, but in my book this guy is someone I hope I could emulate.

Deano1952 on February 5, 2014 at 9:18 AM

Robert Rule is who I am referring to.

Deano1952 on February 5, 2014 at 9:20 AM

It’s a big complex universe and somehow I just don’t believe every traffic accident is preordained.

SoRight on February 4, 2014 at 7:04 PM

Corrie ten Boom wrote that the way we view life is the same as if we were viewing the back of a large tapestry.

“Life is but a Weaving”
(the Tapestry Poem)

“My life is but a weaving
Between my God and me.
I cannot choose the colors
He weaveth steadily.

Oft’ times He weaveth sorrow;
And I in foolish pride
Forget He sees the upper
And I the underside.

Not ’til the loom is silent
And the shuttles cease to fly
Will God unroll the canvas
And reveal the reason why.

The dark threads are as needful
In the weaver’s skillful hand
As the threads of gold and silver
In the pattern He has planned

He knows, He loves, He cares;
Nothing this truth can dim.
He gives the very best to those
Who leave the choice to Him.”
― Corrie ten Boom

If you’ve not read any of her books, I would commend them to you. She was a very wise woman.

oldleprechaun on February 5, 2014 at 11:46 AM