Video: Why men and women can’t be friends

posted at 10:25 pm on December 13, 2011 by Allahpundit

Via Verum Serum. A gag this predictable shouldn’t be this enjoyable but you’ll love every second, I promise. Nora Ephron once wrung an entire movie out of it, in fact, and most of you loved that too. Can’t go wrong comedically with an experience that’s brought intense, sexually charged awkwardness to literally everyone in the world at one point or another.

Don’t despair at the results here, ladies. I’m sure there were plenty of beta males who were interviewed by this guy, answered “yes” to his question, and got left on the cutting-room floor.

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JLPicard on December 13, 2011 at 10:30 PM

It proves that women lie more than men.

RBMN on December 13, 2011 at 10:31 PM

It’s good to see women still feigning modesty. Won’t find them at the Occupy Obamavilles.

John the Libertarian on December 13, 2011 at 10:31 PM

It proves that women lie more than men.

RBMN on December 13, 2011 at 10:31 PM

Except for the men who are lying about the friendship to get into their drawers.

John the Libertarian on December 13, 2011 at 10:32 PM

Interesting,yes comes out of the Female mind,at nearly
the speed of light……

and yet,

Men,are in a conflicted turmoil on that answer,
and it seems,an over-whelming no!!

canopfor on December 13, 2011 at 10:33 PM

Second guy interviewed definitely doesnt have those feeling for females.

Jeddite on December 13, 2011 at 10:33 PM

Why men and hot women can’t be just friends.

tommy-t on December 13, 2011 at 10:33 PM

I would side with the women in the video. I see no reason why I could not be friends with any babe, chick or broad.

And it is especially nice to have such a friend when pants need ironin’ or dinner needs cookin’.

I don’t think my daughter, Rachel, reads this blog or she would be after old Dad with a gun.

Horace on December 13, 2011 at 10:34 PM

I can tell in 10 seconds or less if a guy is going to fall into the friend category or not.

txag92 on December 13, 2011 at 10:34 PM

I think what I learned from that video is that women lie. Bunch of liars.

Weight of Glory on December 13, 2011 at 10:35 PM

That host dude is rather cute.

SouthernGent on December 13, 2011 at 10:35 PM

Well,ahem,I just asked me wife,the exact same question,
and she states,

“You men,its all about sex”!

Could be!!

canopfor on December 13, 2011 at 10:35 PM

It’s good to see women still feigning modesty. Won’t find them at the Occupy Obamavilles.

John the Libertarian on December 13, 2011 at 10:31 PM

This was done at Utah State, they tend to be modest in the land of Zacharias Huntsman.

RickB on December 13, 2011 at 10:35 PM

Sideburns guy and his Razor scooter should probably just take whatever he can get.

Lord on December 13, 2011 at 10:36 PM

Gent- Down boy

CW on December 13, 2011 at 10:37 PM

Well,ahem,I just asked me wife,the exact same question,
and she states,

“You men,its all about sex”!

Could be!!

canopfor on December 13, 2011 at 10:35 PM

You’re my kind of people!

John the Libertarian on December 13, 2011 at 10:38 PM

Lorein…?

/

Seven Percent Solution on December 13, 2011 at 10:38 PM

How can they answer honestly with that big, black, fussy thing in their face.
/

Electrongod on December 13, 2011 at 10:38 PM

By Popular Demand!(sarc)

Joan Jett – I Hate Myself For Loving You
*****************************************

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HPkTGm4RtVM&feature=related

canopfor on December 13, 2011 at 10:39 PM

zz

Electrongod on December 13, 2011 at 10:39 PM

As a man, I’d like to think the answer is yes. Errol Flynn once said his best and truest friends were women. It’s possible to put one’s physical feelings in abeyance — to a degree. But if there is strong physical attraction on the man’s part, all bets are off.

rrpjr on December 13, 2011 at 10:40 PM

This was done at Utah State, they tend to be modest in the land of Zacharias Huntsman.

RickB on December 13, 2011 at 10:35 PM

“I want to be Eli Huntsman friend…!” - MSM *swwwooooonnnn*

Seven Percent Solution on December 13, 2011 at 10:40 PM

Joan Jett – I Hate Myself For Loving You

canopfor on December 13, 2011 at 10:39 PM

Over and over again….

Electrongod on December 13, 2011 at 10:40 PM

Could be!!

canopfor on December 13, 2011 at 10:35 PM
You’re my kind of people!

John the Libertarian on December 13, 2011 at 10:38 PM

John the Libertarian:Lol,”I ain’t dead yet”!:)

canopfor on December 13, 2011 at 10:40 PM

Men will say anything to get laid? I’m shocked, shocked I tell you.

MelonCollie on December 13, 2011 at 10:41 PM

Please show to all boys in the 5th grade.

Oil Can on December 13, 2011 at 10:41 PM

My male friend is waaaay out of my league, and I doubt he has those feelings for me…..I think…

Sekhmet on December 13, 2011 at 10:42 PM

Blonde in the hat is hawt.

And hell no you can’t be just friends with a female.

therightwinger on December 13, 2011 at 10:42 PM

Joan Jett – I Hate Myself For Loving You

canopfor on December 13, 2011 at 10:39 PM
Over and over again….

Electrongod on December 13, 2011 at 10:40 PM

Electrongod!:Lol!:)
====================

Joan Jett- do you wanna touch me
*********************************

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9DRCjQNFyQw

canopfor on December 13, 2011 at 10:43 PM

Weight of Glory on December 13, 2011 at 10:35 PM

No, men and women are made differently. It is interesting, though, that all the women basically recognized that they are calling the “friendship shots,” as it were.

DrMagnolias on December 13, 2011 at 10:43 PM

*smacks forehead* Never really thought of it this way before, AP, but in the Army, all three of my best male buds were ghey! Cuts out the tension, don’cha know.

Ladysmith CulchaVulcha on December 13, 2011 at 10:43 PM

That host dude is rather cute.

SouthernGent on December 13, 2011 at 10:35 PM

SouthernGent:You devil you,haha!:)

canopfor on December 13, 2011 at 10:44 PM

Joan Jett- do you wanna touch me

canopfor on December 13, 2011 at 10:43 PM

I thought I did………not going there.
:)

Electrongod on December 13, 2011 at 10:44 PM

zz

Electrongod on December 13, 2011 at 10:39 PM

Wake up!

John the Libertarian on December 13, 2011 at 10:45 PM

Gent- Down boy

CW on December 13, 2011 at 10:37 PM

Hey, I just want to be his friend. :-p

SouthernGent on December 13, 2011 at 10:46 PM

The guy eating a sandwich the whole time sure is dedicated to that sandwich. Most people would stop eating their sandwiches while on camera. Except that guy. The man’s devotion to his sandwich is unparalleled.

drewwerd on December 13, 2011 at 10:46 PM

Women rule the world… who knew? At least until they turn 30.

However, it’s kinda of cool when you reach the age that you get flirting thrown your way in the prosepect of security for them that you never expected. It’s fun until you really start really turning grey and it stops as soon as it started.

What goes around, comes around. The Chinese might have a point on that point.

Hog Wild on December 13, 2011 at 10:46 PM

zz

Electrongod on December 13, 2011 at 10:39 PM

Electrongod:zz….Top…(sarc):)

canopfor on December 13, 2011 at 10:46 PM

Men will say anything to get laid? I’m shocked, shocked I tell you.

MelonCollie on December 13, 2011 at 10:41 PM

Me too! It’s just devastating!
Please tell me this is not true!

katy the mean old lady on December 13, 2011 at 10:46 PM

Second guy interviewed definitely doesnt have those feeling for females.

Jeddite on December 13, 2011 at 10:33 PM

And what if her guy friend is interested in the same guy that she is?

My collie says:

So men and women can not be “just friends” — even if the guy is “light in his loafers”?

CyberCipher on December 13, 2011 at 10:47 PM

Will Admit its VERY hard to be friends with an attractive woman.

William Amos on December 13, 2011 at 10:47 PM

Now, cut away from testosterone late-teens to bored housewives and husbands in their mid-40s, and you get just the opposite.

John the Libertarian on December 13, 2011 at 10:47 PM

CW on December 13, 2011 at 10:37 PM
Hey, I just want to be his friend. :-p

SouthernGent on December 13, 2011 at 10:46 PM

SouthernGent:Ugh…..Men(snark):)

canopfor on December 13, 2011 at 10:47 PM

Wake up!

John the Libertarian on December 13, 2011 at 10:45 PM

LOL.
Fussy = fuzzy.
Previous post correction.

Electrongod on December 13, 2011 at 10:47 PM

How can you tell when a woman is lying? Yep – her lips move. I have overcome temptation. At 53 years old, the old urge doesn’t make me go out on the hunt and do stupid things anymore. I save a lot of money. But I ain’t dead yet. And guess what? The women come knocking on my door. It’s so much fun to string them along for a while, then tell them I’m not interested. (Most of them have a suitcase in their car and usually a few kids.) Word of advice: Hey, guys! Keep your pecker in your pants and the women will be even that much more hotter for you. But you have to be VERY selective. And non-commital – at least at first.

Elric on December 13, 2011 at 10:47 PM

Now, cut away from testosterone late-teens to bored housewives and husbands in their mid-40s, and you get just the opposite.

John the Libertarian on December 13, 2011 at 10:47 PM

John theb Libertarian:Lol,”Do I have to”!(sarc):)

canopfor on December 13, 2011 at 10:49 PM

Well,ahem,I just asked me wife,the exact same question,
and she states,

“You men,its all about sex”!

Could be!!

canopfor on December 13, 2011 at 10:35 PM

Umm … yeah. And your point is?

nukemhill on December 13, 2011 at 10:49 PM

I’m sure there were plenty of beta males who were interviewed by this guy

Yep – all the girls who talked about their guy friend who would sleep with them if they’d let ‘em – that would be the beta males.

elcapt on December 13, 2011 at 10:49 PM

Of course you can be friends with a hot chick… if her best friend is hotter.

Kenosha Kid on December 13, 2011 at 10:49 PM

Will also state been on the other end. Had some women who didnt want to be just friends. Sad how even a little attention (as a friend) is seen as some proclamation of love.

William Amos on December 13, 2011 at 10:49 PM

SO OLD

ronsfi on December 13, 2011 at 10:49 PM

Previous post correction.

Electrongod on December 13, 2011 at 10:47 PM

Just jazzing you. ;)

John the Libertarian on December 13, 2011 at 10:50 PM

I sorta told my wife more than 25 years ago…”I wanna be more than friends!”……….I still do!
When I first bumped into her…I didn’t say “Excuse me!”….
I said “THANK YOU!”….It scared her, and she married me!

KOOLAID2 on December 13, 2011 at 10:50 PM

How can you tell when a woman is lying? Yep – her lips move.
Elric on December 13, 2011 at 10:47 PM

…….Not going there.

Electrongod on December 13, 2011 at 10:50 PM

canopfor on December 13, 2011 at 10:43 PM
I thought I did………not going there.
:)

Electrongod on December 13, 2011 at 10:44 PM

Electrongod:Why yes…yes you did!:)

canopfor on December 13, 2011 at 10:50 PM

Just jazzing you. ;)

John the Libertarian on December 13, 2011 at 10:50 PM

:)
I knew..

Electrongod on December 13, 2011 at 10:50 PM

Ever been hanging out with friends, and you’re not hungry, but everybody else wants to order food? Well, you tell them you’re not hungry, but then one of them says “Come on, I’ll treat you.” Well, in that case, of course I’ll order some food, even though I wasn’t particularly interested in eating.

Same thing with friends who are girls. I have a couple female friends that I really treasure. Am I actively trying to sleep with them? Nope. Would I do it if they just randomly asked to hook up? Damn right. I’m not stupid.

Good Solid B-Plus on December 13, 2011 at 10:51 PM

Men & Women can only be friends online. My wife just told me that. I had a girl friend before I had met my wife, that my wife even liked, we were just friends. All three of us were friends for many years following, until the Mother in law and my wife’s best friend decided to sow seeds of doubt in my wife’s head. Married 27 years now, here is what I have learned. No, men and women can’t just be friends. At least not married men.

Bmore on December 13, 2011 at 10:51 PM

Keep your pecker in your pants and the women will be even that much more hotter for you.

Elric on December 13, 2011 at 10:47 PM

There is no greater freedom, or aphrodisiac to women, than embracing being alone. Drives them into a frenzy.

John the Libertarian on December 13, 2011 at 10:52 PM

I sorta told my wife more than 25 years ago…”I wanna be more than friends!”……….I still do!
When I first bumped into her…I didn’t say “Excuse me!”….
I said “THANK YOU!”….It scared her, and she married me!

KOOLAID2 on December 13, 2011 at 10:50 PM

KOOLAID2:Lol,good story,and from this morning,yes,I have an interesting sleeping pattern,haha!

canopfor on December 13, 2011 at 10:53 PM

Yeah. That’s why I mostly just hang out with female friends no need to lead a guy on.

terryannonline on December 13, 2011 at 10:53 PM

There is no greater freedom, or aphrodisiac to women, than embracing being alone. Drives them into a frenzy.

John the Libertarian on December 13, 2011 at 10:52 PM

See: Maureen Dowd

SouthernGent on December 13, 2011 at 10:54 PM

I don’t think this is true, just about every girl I’ve known has told me how good of a friend I am, so I must be doing something right. The other guys are doing friendship wrong.

rjcylon on December 13, 2011 at 10:55 PM

See: Maureen Dowd

SouthernGent on December 13, 2011 at 10:54 PM

Yeah, I realized as soon as I hit submit that there were a bunch of caveats. You have to have looks and money and confidence, first.

John the Libertarian on December 13, 2011 at 10:55 PM

Plus, putting in at least a token effort to hook up with an attractive friend is like a 3rd party run for President. I don’t expect to win, but I at least want my name on the ballot.

Good Solid B-Plus on December 13, 2011 at 10:56 PM

Here’s my wish to Allahpundit and everyone at Hot Air for a Merry Christmas!

It has been such a long time since AP has come down into the pits to talk to us, so I’m not really sure any more which would be more appropriate for him this year.

This, where I can picture a woman waiting, and AP walking up and down on the sidewalk two buildings away …

Or this.

I’ll let you decide what they mean by:

Follow me in merry measure

jaime on December 13, 2011 at 10:57 PM

I only have one girl who I’m best friends with, who is single, and have no sexual interest in. We are very close.

Every other girl? I try to keep em in that sexual limbo.

YA GOTTA.

blatantblue on December 13, 2011 at 10:59 PM

I have two gorgeous, talented awesome “female friends.” I’ve known one for over 50 years, and the other for 46.

I refer to them as Mom & Sis.

No longer a HotGas Virgin…..

etbliss on December 13, 2011 at 11:01 PM

Video: Why men and women can’t be friends

Before I became a Christian like it says in John 3:3, I could not “just be friends” with an attractive woman without wanting to have sex with her, uh, I was promiscuous. I was the kinda guy that I intend to keep my daughters away from for sure! And then the Lord softened my heart and led me away from that lifestyle, and, you know, God really got a hold of my heart and I saw the error of my ways and the truth of the importance of adhering to God’s design for human sexuality which is to be shared between one man and one woman within the bonds of marriage, and, so, I repented of my sins and put my faith or trust alone in Jesus Christ and was saved, and, now, with the Holy Spirit leading me into all truth (see John 16:13) I can “just be friends” with women without leading a lifestyle of sexual sin. I treat God’s daughters as He intended them to be treated, and, it’s amazing! Thanks.

apocalypse on December 13, 2011 at 11:03 PM

Ive given up with girls these days, anyway.

I’ve decided to stop trying. To not be nice anymore, and try being a d1ck for once. See how that works, cause being sociable, nice, and thoughtful doesn’t go very far with women in their 20s.

blatantblue on December 13, 2011 at 11:06 PM

I tell this my girlfriend all the time! I’m so glad to finally have some peer reviewed research to back me up!

ChasingVictory27 on December 13, 2011 at 11:06 PM

Guys are wired up different. If a girl is attractive , they will always at least have the wish in their head.

Southernblogger on December 13, 2011 at 11:15 PM

lol this is sad… why are so many guys so immature?? sigh. =\

Sachiko on December 13, 2011 at 11:18 PM

I can tell in 10 seconds or less if a guy is going to fall into the friend category or not.

txag92 on December 13, 2011 at 10:34 PM

Ditto. That’s why I have plenty of beta male friends (although good ones, at that!)

Liberty 5-3001 on December 13, 2011 at 11:18 PM

Elric on December 13, 2011 at 10:47 PM

Lovely.

DrMagnolias on December 13, 2011 at 11:19 PM

I think there is a far simpler reason why men and women can’t be friends. Aside from the physical attraction aspect us men have, the answer is easy. Women talk about stupid s*** all of the time. Sorry…I do not care about Real Housewives of Whatever City or Top Chef or any of Bravo’s TV line-up. Also dance/song related reality TV competitions are garbage.

Shock the Monkey on December 13, 2011 at 11:20 PM

A beautiful huntress always collects a quiver well stocked with quivering members. It is natures way and perfect.

BL@KBIRD on December 13, 2011 at 11:20 PM

blatantblue on December 13, 2011 at 11:06 PM

I have a good friend that basically gets to the point pretty quick with women. He never sleeps alone. I could never in a million years talk that kind of trash, I respect women, and it amounts to nothing. Nice guys sleep alone. Women go for azzholes for whatever reason.

Southernblogger on December 13, 2011 at 11:21 PM

blatantblue on December 13, 2011 at 11:06 PM

I hear you.

rrpjr on December 13, 2011 at 11:22 PM

being sociable, nice, and thoughtful doesn’t go very far with women in their 20s.

blatantblue on December 13, 2011 at 11:06 PM

Too true. :(

Mr. Prodigy on December 13, 2011 at 11:22 PM

Southernblogger on December 13, 2011 at 11:21 PM

It’s cause jerks present a challenge.

I do well with girls who are 28, 29. I’m 24. They recognize a good person at that point in their lives.

Girls my age? 22, 23, 24? Forget about it. You have to take most of em for what they are….vapid play things.

blatantblue on December 13, 2011 at 11:24 PM

Why men and hot women can’t be just friends.
tommy-t on December 13, 2011 at 10:33 PM

Excellent point!

Sherman1864 on December 13, 2011 at 11:25 PM

blatantblue on December 13, 2011 at 11:06 PM

The dirt-bag approach always works, especially in New York. Far too often when I lived there did I see some tool with a chinstrap wearing a graphic t pick up tons of talent.

Shock the Monkey on December 13, 2011 at 11:26 PM

So I’ve been adopting certain tricks from the jerks. Act flippant. I poke fun, I ridicule girls.

Gets the number and attention easy. I don’t struggle there, but I fail when I open up. I’m honest and forthright. I don’t play games. That’s where I just lose patience.

Call a girl who’s 23 a day too early and you’re creepy. Call a day too late and you’re done.

blatantblue on December 13, 2011 at 11:26 PM

Lovely.

DrMagnolias on December 13, 2011 at 11:19 PM

Exactly what I was thinking.

marinconservative on December 13, 2011 at 11:26 PM

So now I won’t call at all. Buzz of girls. Only good for ass. That’s why you keep getting guys who use you.

blatantblue on December 13, 2011 at 11:27 PM

Do all of the guy responses mean there is no such thing as a girl so unattractive that they can be just friends? If not, does it mean that they are all so shallow that they don’t associate with unattractive females?

EaterOfBeef on December 13, 2011 at 11:29 PM

Blatantblue is dropping some major truth bombs up in here….Women are crazy now.

therightwinger on December 13, 2011 at 11:33 PM

Shock the Monkey on December 13, 2011 at 11:20 PM

I’m a broad and I like talking about military history, sharks, shipwrecks…whatever. I’m glad my spawn is male because if I had birthed a daughter…I’d be lost.

annoyinglittletwerp on December 13, 2011 at 11:35 PM

Keep your pecker in your pants and the women will be even that much more hotter for you.

Elric on December 13, 2011 at 10:47 PM

You don’t think with it swinging in the breeze they’ll dig on ya’?

tommy-t on December 13, 2011 at 11:37 PM

That’s why you keep getting guys who use you.

blatantblue on December 13, 2011 at 11:27 PM

Usually the one who is walking around bitter and frustrated is the one being used. Gender aside.

jaime on December 13, 2011 at 11:38 PM

TROOF BOMBZ!

I’ve just had it. I realized later on today that I will meet the girl of my dreams when I’m in my late 20s.

When all these pukey little snot nosed boob girls have life knock em down a peg or two, and they stop dating that douchebag with the sideways hat and the chin strap beard because he was banging tricks behind their backs.

When they grow up!

blatantblue on December 13, 2011 at 11:38 PM

Then imma find a girl and love the sh1t out of her.

And all the hoes who spurned me now will be fat and with cheese curdling between their toes and will say “wow why did I diss BB?”

Ok on a serious note I’m gonna love the sh1t out of that girl when I find her.

blatantblue on December 13, 2011 at 11:41 PM

Peace out and Guinness Stout!!

blatantblue on December 13, 2011 at 11:41 PM

Video: Why men and women can’t be friends

Many are friends. In general, married men say they are happier than single men. Happily married men usually say their wife is their best friend. (I know mine is!) Married people generally say their spouse is the person they disclose to most. And, according to the Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale, “death of spouse” causes the biggest negative impact on people.
(en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Holmes_and_Rahe_stress_scale.)

Dr. Charles G. Waugh on December 13, 2011 at 11:48 PM

Ive given up with girls these days, anyway.

I’ve decided to stop trying. To not be nice anymore, and try being a d1ck for once. See how that works, cause being sociable, nice, and thoughtful doesn’t go very far with women in their 20s.

blatantblue on December 13, 2011 at 11:06 PM

Keep the faith and continue to be yourself because you will meet that one woman who is looking for a guy like you but only finds douchebags and if you are “playing the douchebag” part you WILL miss out on a great relationship.

Check out the movie
http://movies.yahoo.com/movie/1804850035/info

I used to do the same thing as you just to be in the “game” but after seeing this movie I decided to be myself and to hell with all the vapid chicks. I got thicker skin and I took control by walking away if the woman was an idiot. No need to be rude or whatever, just bail and move on. No sense wasting time and missing a great opportunity!

Stay strong and maybe if you were good this year Santa will bring you an opportunity!

VikingGoneWild on December 13, 2011 at 11:54 PM

It’s not an equal world when it comes to relationships, and both men and woman know that. Especially the women.

keep the change on December 13, 2011 at 11:54 PM

I can tell in 10 seconds or less if a guy is going to fall into the friend category or not.

txag92 on December 13, 2011 at 10:34 PM

We’re even. I can tell in 10 seconds or less if a girl’s going to be a friend with benefits.

TXUS on December 13, 2011 at 11:55 PM

I’m a broad and I like talking about military history, sharks, shipwrecks…whatever. I’m glad my spawn is male because if I had birthed a daughter…I’d be lost.

annoyinglittletwerp on December 13, 2011 at 11:35 PM

Military history? Sharks? Shipwrecks? Where were you three years ago? Seriously if you had added fantasy football, beer and 80s music to that list you might be the embodiment of my idea of the perfect girl.

Shock the Monkey on December 13, 2011 at 11:56 PM

An oldie but a goodie.

http://laddertheory.com/

Pablo Honey on December 14, 2011 at 12:05 AM

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