Dumb media question of the day: “Is Internet sex cheating?”

posted at 7:05 pm on June 7, 2011 by Allahpundit

I’m tempted to poll you guys on this, but no matter how many of you answer “no,” I’m just going to assume that you’re pranking us.

Granted, it’s a slow news day we all expect the media to strain for new angles on Weinergate to keep a juicy story rolling, but c’mon. Show of hands, ladies: How many of you are okay with your man texting another woman, “ridiculous bulge in my shorts now. wanna see?”

“Would you text it, post it, send it with your spouse looking over your shoulder?” asks Austin, 52, who works in corporate public relations and takes no issue with his wife’s frank appraisal of the situation. “If yes, then it’s not infidelity. If no, you’re cheating.”…

[S]ome [people], says Kimberly Young, director of the Center for Internet Addiction Recovery, experience a more dangerous sense of detachment, somehow convincing themselves once the laptop is closed: “I didn’t really do that. That wasn’t me.” And they don’t see their actions as infidelity…

Is the Weiner scandal — in which the married congressman finally confessed, after days of denying it, to tweeting a lewd crotch photo of himself to a woman in Seattle — a Mars vs. Venus moment? Do men see it differently than women?

Psychologist Gail Saltz thinks so. “For men, the sexual act is much more disturbing than anything else,” says Saltz, who sees many couples in her Manhattan practice. “For women, what constitutes a betrayal is any emotional or sexual interaction.”

Is that right? So the going theory here is that men might tolerate their wives sexting guys so long as there’s no actual coitus? Show of hands, fellas: How many of you are okay with your lady texting another man, “i have never wanted to b**g someone so bad who I’ve never even met”? How is this an actual news story?

I don’t know. Maybe, as a single guy, I can’t fully appreciate the profound trust that characterizes a loving, successful marriage. Let’s ask a married man what he thinks.


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“Is Internet sex cheating?”

To women: yes.
To men: no.

Count to 10 on June 7, 2011 at 7:07 PM

Looks like we have certitude on the ‘girth certificate‘ with this guy, right Mr. Trump??

hadta say it….

ted c on June 7, 2011 at 7:10 PM

Yucky. But what if your wife is in a relationship with Hillary?

andy85719 on June 7, 2011 at 7:10 PM

Evidently not if you’re a Democrat…. Republican is a different matter…

sandee on June 7, 2011 at 7:10 PM

Soooooooooooo…

How many of you gals want to see a Text of the Donald reaching climax with that look on his face?

Seven Percent Solution on June 7, 2011 at 7:11 PM

It takes a village, to raise a Weiner…..

ted c on June 7, 2011 at 7:11 PM

The sex thing is between Weinie and his wife. It’s falsely reporting a crime that brought him down.

Ronnie on June 7, 2011 at 7:12 PM

Darn, I just had to spend the time trying to make my point funny.

blink on June 7, 2011 at 7:11 PM

Yours was funnier… Brilliant minds and all…

sandee on June 7, 2011 at 7:13 PM

The has been going on a heck of a lot longer then the last couple year.

upinak on June 7, 2011 at 7:13 PM

Simple answer: ask the person you’re with.

MadisonConservative on June 7, 2011 at 7:14 PM

The vows of “Honor” are broken when you display your genitalia to others for the sexual gratification of the viewer or the owner of said Genetitalia.

-Portlandon’s rules of Marriage, Chapter 3. Section B, line 7.

portlandon on June 7, 2011 at 7:15 PM

The sex thing is between Weinie and his wife. It’s falsely reporting a crime that brought him down.

Ronnie on June 7, 2011 at 7:12 PM

This +100. Just as Bill Clinton was really impeached for lying under oath. However, we’ll have about as much success making that idea stick this time as we did last time, which is to say, pretty much none. :-(

Mary in LA on June 7, 2011 at 7:15 PM

Let’s ask a married man what he thinks.

I don’t think AP is taking this seriously.

I’m guessing now…just guessing…

SteveMG on June 7, 2011 at 7:15 PM

[S]ome [people], says Kimberly Young, director of the Center for Internet Addiction Recovery,

The what? Wanna bet they get tax dollars?

RadClown on June 7, 2011 at 7:16 PM

ted c on June 7, 2011 at 7:11 PM

You need a sound effect.

Fallon on June 7, 2011 at 7:18 PM

This must be posted in this thread.

Minor content warning, but safe for work with ear buds in.

SouthernGent on June 7, 2011 at 7:18 PM

The vows of “Honor” are broken when you display your genitalia to others for the sexual gratification of the viewer or the owner of said Genetitalia.
-Portlandon’s rules of Marriage, Chapter 3. Section B, line 7.

portlandon on June 7, 2011 at 7:15 PM

What do you say about food is the way to a mans heart?

I have 3 meat loafs out. *wink*

upinak on June 7, 2011 at 7:19 PM

Didn’t Weiner imply that for the most part his wife knew about his Internet 6? He made me think she was fine with it, minus the embarassment of the publicity.

myrenovations on June 7, 2011 at 7:19 PM

So it’s “rape” rape, “cheat” cheat, and “wank” wank…

That’s as clear as mud…

Roy Rogers on June 7, 2011 at 7:19 PM

Hey, is it possible that Weiner blows the lid off of their fake marriage (if it is a fake marriage) in order to claim that he really wasn’t as slimy as people think?

blink on June 7, 2011 at 7:14 PM

I think yesterday’s weep-athon can safely put to rest that Weiner is teh gay. Since Weiner has no problem with the ladies, it is safe to assume that he confirmed beforehand that Huma is adequate in the sheets.

pedestrian on June 7, 2011 at 7:19 PM

Distraction alert.

What about this question: “Is he a sex pervert for flashing his penis to millions of girls?”

faraway on June 7, 2011 at 7:20 PM

Distraction alert.

What about this question: “Is he a sex pervert for flashing his p.enis to millions of girls?”

faraway on June 7, 2011 at 7:22 PM

As Jimmah Carter can tell you, lust in your heart is judged by God as adultery. For the Godless and heartless, including Weiner, who may not have a spiritual adviser, ask your wives and girlfriends. Duh.

Terrie on June 7, 2011 at 7:23 PM

Is it cheating? There’s no right answer to that. Cheating is defined by the people in a relationship. If a couple decides to engage in a polyamorous relationship, then it very well may not be cheating. I think it’s best put here:

“Would you text it, post it, send it with your spouse looking over your shoulder?” asks Austin, 52, who works in corporate public relations and takes no issue with his wife’s frank appraisal of the situation. “If yes, then it’s not infidelity. If no, you’re cheating.”

I’m assuming, however, that Mr. Weiner’s wife was less-than-OK with sexting.

sobincorporated on June 7, 2011 at 7:23 PM

What do you say about food is the way to a mans heart?

I have 3 meat loafs out. *wink*

upinak on June 7, 2011 at 7:19 PM

A Spouse who make foods containing large quantities of Beef, Bacon, Chicken, Pork, Lamb, Elk, Buffalo, Deer, or Fish are loved and cherished by their spouse. Or they are trying to fill them with artery clogging fats so they can kill them off slowly. Take your pick.

-Portlandon’s rules of Marriage, Chapter 9. Section g, line 4.

portlandon on June 7, 2011 at 7:24 PM

Dumb media question of the day: “Is Internet sex cheating?”

Depends on the relationship. Some couples are fine with it. Some aren’t.

If it’s something you feel you have to hide… if your first reaction is to protest that you’ve been “hacked” or “pranked”, then yeah, it’s cheating.

malclave on June 7, 2011 at 7:25 PM

Ronnie on June 7, 2011 at 7:12 PM

Nice point!..:)

Dire Straits on June 7, 2011 at 7:25 PM

Near the beginning of this hour’s Fox Report with Shepard Smith, the quotable host referred to Weiner’s “junk mail.” Heh.

Terrie on June 7, 2011 at 7:27 PM

OT: Obama’s State Dinner Menu:

STATE DINNER MENU:
White House Honey Gastrique
Tuna Tartare with Rye Crisps
Pickled Young Carrots and Mustard Oil
Spring Pea Salad
Shaved Ham and Ginger Snaps
Petite Filet
With Maryland Crab Ravioli
Wild Ramp Puree
Apple Strudel
Golden Raisins and Topfen

America in Recovery Summer!! will be eating Top Ramen, Dollar Menu Hamburgers, Potato Gruel, & Apple Core Strudel w/seeds.

portlandon on June 7, 2011 at 7:27 PM

“Is Internet sex cheating?”

To women: yes.
To men: no.

Count to 10 on June 7, 2011 at 7:07 PM

We’re talking emotional intimacy, and physical intimacy. And maybe one is more important to women than the other.

Paul-Cincy on June 7, 2011 at 7:28 PM

A Spouse who make foods containing large quantities of Beef, Bacon, Chicken, Pork, Lamb, Elk, Buffalo, Deer, or Fish are loved and cherished by their spouse. Or they are trying to fill them with artery clogging fats so they can kill them off slowly. Take your pick.

-Portlandon’s rules of Marriage, Chapter 9. Section g, line 4.

portlandon on June 7, 2011 at 7:24 PM

Hmmmm so tell me oh Port of the Marriage. 3 loaves of meat.. all have beef and pork in them. one has BBQ sauce, another Cheese and the last… the haught jalapeno with cheese.

If he is cheating, I am getting him fat, so he can’t run away fast! heheheeeeee

upinak on June 7, 2011 at 7:28 PM

Dumb media question of the day: “Is Internet sex cheating?”

You got that right Toyota, ask your lady (the only person in the room whose vote counts), she has the full explanation for your sorry chauvinistic behind.

Just remember you were screwed before you asked, asking was worse than that and the fact you still don’t get it is worse than that.

And another thing! While we’re talking about it!

Enjoy the couch.

Speakup on June 7, 2011 at 7:30 PM

Weinergate: The gift that keeps on giving…

OmahaConservative on June 7, 2011 at 7:30 PM

Show of hands, ladies: How many of you are okay with your man texting another woman,

He would have been booted out of my house the day he shaved his chest. But that’s just me. Huma is a different breed of cat. The NY Post mentioned that she had been pursued by George Clooney. Not that I could stand Clooney’s politics, but if you are liberal to begin with, I’d say that choosing anorexic Anthony over George is a little strange. But again, that’s just me.

BitterClinger on June 7, 2011 at 7:30 PM

Can anyone even imagine Weiner saying c*** and h**d and c**? The messages are surreal. Then again, I bet even the prudish Bill O uses those words with his wife. Can you imagine Obama saying…to Michelle? Ew.

andy85719 on June 7, 2011 at 7:30 PM

America in Recovery Summer!! will be eating Top Ramen, Dollar Menu Hamburgers, Potato Gruel, & Apple Core Strudel w/seeds.

portlandon on June 7, 2011 at 7:27 PM

the perfect menu for being dumped on the net? Yes, I think so.

upinak on June 7, 2011 at 7:30 PM

I’ve been through it. Regardless of the fact that nothing physical happened between them, it was a huge betrayal which ended up contributing to the end of my marriage.

surrounded on June 7, 2011 at 7:30 PM

OT: Obama’s State Dinner Menu:

STATE DINNER MENU:
White House Honey Gastrique
Tuna Tartare with Rye Crisps
Pickled Young Carrots and Mustard Oil
Spring Pea Salad
Shaved Ham and Ginger Snaps
Petite Filet
With Maryland Crab Ravioli
Wild Ramp Puree
Apple Strudel
Golden Raisins and Topfen

America in Recovery Summer!! will be eating Top Ramen, Dollar Menu Hamburgers, Potato Gruel, & Apple Core Strudel w/seeds.

portlandon on June 7, 2011 at 7:27 PM

It takes a lot to feed Mooochelle’s ego

Roy Rogers on June 7, 2011 at 7:32 PM

He can channel his boy Clinton,”I did not have sex sex with that woman,Miss Charlotte,Miss Daisy,Miss Susie,Miss Karen,Miss Linda,Miss Helen,Miss Anita or Miss Dirty Leg.”

docflash on June 7, 2011 at 7:32 PM

If he is cheating, I am getting him fat, so he can’t run away fast! heheheeeeee

upinak on June 7, 2011 at 7:28 PM

LOL. Your husband is a lucky man. I love meatloaf sandwiches the next day. Yum.

portlandon on June 7, 2011 at 7:32 PM

America in Recovery Summer!! will be eating Top Ramen, Dollar Menu Hamburgers, Potato Gruel, & Apple Core Strudel w/seeds.
portlandon on June 7, 2011 at 7:27 PM

Do you have a recipe for the Apple Core Strudel w/seeds?
Sounds delicious, would love to try that out on my family.

atxcowgirl on June 7, 2011 at 7:34 PM

It is cheating whether you, or the couple involved, think it is cheating or not. I’m talking objective truth. Now maybe some of you are okay with a ‘limited’ cheater, but that is not the same thing as it not still being cheating / adultery.

AnotherOpinion on June 7, 2011 at 7:34 PM

Some wedding vows include this phrase:
“I promise to keep myself only for you in the sacred relationship of marriage, and never to allow
another to steal your sacred place in my heart and my life by word or thought or deed.”

In which case, sexting someone other than your spouse most definitely breaks that vow. But even if that vow was not part of your ceremony, it is still a betrayal.

kooly on June 7, 2011 at 7:35 PM

Is Internet sex cheating?

Only if it’s a Republican.

bitsy on June 7, 2011 at 7:39 PM

In the south we would say: is eatin cheatin?

Dingbat63 on June 7, 2011 at 7:43 PM

Wild Ramp Puree
portlandon on June 7, 2011 at 7:27 PM

Leek puree would have been a better way to say this. When I see “wild ramp” I can’t help but read it as “wild romp” and I betcha I’m not alone.

Buy Danish on June 7, 2011 at 7:48 PM

Yes. It is cheating.

kingsjester on June 7, 2011 at 7:52 PM

Simple answer: ask the person you’re with.

MadisonConservative on June 7, 2011 at 7:14 PM

Yeah right, MadCon. “Honey, I’ve been following a couple hundred hotties and a porn star or two on line and would like to play ‘You show me yours, I’ll show you mine’ with them. Just on line or texting, of course. Any problem with that?”

With women I’ve spent any serious amount of time with over the years, that question alone would get you (a) served with divorce papers, (b) kicked in the groin, while saying, “Sure, baby, let’s swell it up a little bit for ‘em”, (c) gunpowder and lead, or (d) all of the above.

TXUS on June 7, 2011 at 7:52 PM

Is the guy who stands in the alley waiting for young girls to go by so he can expose himself to them cheating? Weiner is the high-tech version of that.

Dee2008 on June 7, 2011 at 7:53 PM

LOL. Your husband is a lucky man. I love meatloaf sandwiches the next day. Yum.

portlandon on June 7, 2011 at 7:32 PM

I have gone all betty crocker and he is loving me and hating me. I keep telling him, round is a shape. :)

upinak on June 7, 2011 at 7:54 PM

I get the feeling that they married each other for political gain, like the Clintons, so the usual marriage rules wouldn’t apply. In such a relationship, the greatest crime would be getting caught.

Aardvark on June 7, 2011 at 8:01 PM

I have gone all betty crocker and he is loving me and hating me. I keep telling him, round is a shape. :)

upinak on June 7, 2011 at 7:54 PM

LOL. Be careful, upinak, some of our friends here might want to text you their belly shots. ;-)

TXUS on June 7, 2011 at 8:13 PM

upinak on June 7, 2011 at 7:54 PM

Dahling, I keep Prof. F. slim by chasing him around the dining table. Everything depends on how much they want to be caught.

Fortunata on June 7, 2011 at 8:13 PM

Aardvark on June 7, 2011 at 8:01 PM

Weiner was anointed by the Clintons to be the next Mayor of NY. I do think it’s possible that this marriage was, shall we say ‘encouraged’ because of the great optics Huma provided Weinie – as he rose from Congress, to Gracie Mansion, perhaps to the White House.

Buy Danish on June 7, 2011 at 8:16 PM

TWEETIN’ AIN’T CHEATIN’ AMIRITE

Jim Treacher on June 7, 2011 at 8:17 PM

If you would feel ashamed of others finding out about it, then its cheating.

If you don’t feel ashamed about others finding out about it, then you’re a pervert.

ajacksonian on June 7, 2011 at 8:19 PM

I’d think the person to tell us if Rep. Weiner’s activities (which included far more than sending one photo to one girl, including planning a trip to Vegas to meet up with his blackjack dealer internet and phone sex pal) were OK with his wife would be… duh, his wife.

I’m not suggesting she needs to make a statement; that’s her call totally. Only suggesting that a taking an opinion survey isn’t the way to answer that question. This isn’t a hypothetical.

And on that subject (the actual wife’s actual opinion), all we got from Mr. Weiner was “She’s not happy.”

If I read that correctly, I suspect it’s a gross understatement.

If he still wants to run for mayor, he might want to consider running for mayor of a city in a land far away.

IndieDogg on June 7, 2011 at 8:20 PM

Weiner was anointed by the Clintons to be the next Mayor of NY. I do think it’s possible that this marriage was, shall we say ‘encouraged’ because of the great optics Huma provided Weinie – as he rose from Congress, to Gracie Mansion, perhaps to the White House.

Buy Danish on June 7, 2011 at 8:16 PM

The fact is, both of them needed marriage on their resumes. They got themselves political trophy spouses. Impossible to say whether it was a business decision or not. However, I will say that the wedding photo that’s publicized makes it look like they’re mere models, excepts that models usually look more comfortable. She stands away from him and his encircling arms look like they’re trying not to damage a fragile glass figurine. Nothing warm or familiar about it.

obladioblada on June 7, 2011 at 8:32 PM

I say yes. I know it damaged my daughter’s marriage. He just couldn’t stop. The excitement seemed to be in the fact that it bothered my daughter so he had to hide it. Perhaps the danger of getting caught is part of it?

jakev on June 7, 2011 at 8:53 PM

I’m amused by all this feigned concern over Weiner’s wife’s feelings about all this. He was her ticket to First Lady of New York City and, quite possibly, to be the second first Muslim to call the White House her home. She, of course, was his ticket to get the Clinton nod for his mayoral race and beyond.

In the political brothel that is the world in which these people live and thrive, there’s happy endings for everyone.

TXUS on June 7, 2011 at 8:57 PM

“Would you text it, post it, send it with your spouse looking over your shoulder?”

Check.

fellas: How many of you are okay with your lady texting another man, “i have never wanted to b**g someone so bad who I’ve never even met”?

Checkmate.

Tim_CA on June 7, 2011 at 9:02 PM

TWEETIN’ AIN’T CHEATIN’ AMIRITE

Jim Treacher on June 7, 2011 at 8:17 PM

Instant Friggin’ Classic!!

LMAO!

Tim_CA on June 7, 2011 at 9:04 PM

Dumb media question of the day: “Is Internet sex cheating?”

Virtually!

Dr. Charles G. Waugh on June 7, 2011 at 10:04 PM

andy85719 on June 7, 2011 at 7:10 PM

that is so over the line. I find it abhorrent from the Left towrd Palin and from the Right toward Hillary. What is ur damage? Huma is a hard working powerful woman with her own career, so is Hillary. Are they threatening to you? Their husbands cheat they work that makes them lesbians?

You are pathetic.

ginaswo on June 7, 2011 at 11:15 PM

TXUS on June 7, 2011 at 8:57 PM

another one making it clear they are full of shxt about how horrible the left is.

What is wrong with you?

Again, powerful working women on the left of the political spectrum are free targets for any lewd, ‘power crazed!!’ comments right?

Same shxt with HRC. Oh she stays with him for power. Give me a frakking break. Both of them apparently love their husbands.

Do only women on the right who stay with cheating husbands truly do it for love or vows?

Is every woman who stays with a man who cheated after cash or a house in your mind?

Sad.

These comments make me question how I could think I am more conservative and how great the GOP is.

They are as awful as the unhinged ranters of the left.

ginaswo on June 7, 2011 at 11:18 PM

Its not the sexting that i care about its the freaking lying when they get caught. I dont care if they cheat as long as its on there own time and dime. But talking to everybody like they are crazy for even suggesting it. Reminds me of “I did not have sexual relations with that woman” or whatever, wagging a freakin finger at us. Just be a man and say “yeah i effed her so what? i have marital problems thats my business.” Id respect that more than the lies and the sniveling press conference when they finally have to come clean.
( Wiener, McGreevey and client no.9. ect)

Greed on June 8, 2011 at 12:00 AM

It is cheating whether you, or the couple involved, think it is cheating or not. I’m talking objective truth. Now maybe some of you are okay with a ‘limited’ cheater, but that is not the same thing as it not still being cheating / adultery.

AnotherOpinion on June 7, 2011 at 7:34 PM

Luckily, you don’t get to decide what’s proper for the masses. Yes, there are things that would be considered “cheating” and “adultery” by the definition of the Bible, but to say that it’s objective truth is myopic and arrogant. What a person defines as cheating is cheating if done to that person, no more, no less.

sobincorporated on June 8, 2011 at 12:28 AM

Show of hands, fellas: How many of you are okay with your lady texting another man,

If I raise only one hand to agree that tweeting is cheating, I still have the other hand to free to do some “sexting” with the tweety bird….

Does a pin prick leak in a tire cause a flat after a while?

So if I knew that my lady is sexting while I am goneeven just a little bit would it bother me and make me wonder what could happen if it goes on long enough? Well of course it would, what an utterly stupid suggestion that it wouldn’t..!!

So if that same lady would have done it before she met me, would I care? Of course not, what a stupid question! Would it make me wonder about her if she’d had an addiction doing so? Well of course it would…!!

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You know I cannot stop the Tweety bird from flying over my head, but I sure can prevent it from building a nest ON MY HEAD…

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You know what’s so really sad about this from Wiener is that from all accounts Huma is a most gracious human being, so for Wiener to do this is a most disgraceful and despicable thing he could’ve done to her…!

So maybe Huma is tolerant of this, but does that make it a-okay for Wiener to do some sexting and thereby taking advantage of her tolerance level?

Mcguyver on June 8, 2011 at 5:29 AM

“It depends on what your definition of is, is”…

I can’t believe is, is hasn’t been used on this thread before now…

Gohawgs on June 8, 2011 at 5:36 AM

For a Christian it is definitely cheating. Don’t know about those of Jewish faith.

SKYFOX on June 8, 2011 at 7:20 AM

Dumb media question of the day: “Is Internet sex cheating?”

NO – Only actual sex is cheating (if you’re married) – not “internet” sex, not watching porn films, not jerking off,not reading Playboy, just real actual sex (Special note to Clinton – INCLUDING BJs)

LODGE4 on June 8, 2011 at 7:34 AM

To men: no.

Count to 10 on June 7, 2011 at 7:07 PM

So men really have no problem with their wives cyber sexting online and sending men naked pictures of themselves?

I agree with Madison that it depends on the couple, but it should be considered cheating as a default until further information proves otherwise. As far as I’m concerned, anytime you’re getting “off” on interaction with another individual, you’ve crossed a line you shouldn’t have.

I don’t have a problem with porn so long as it isn’t being chosen over me, but I would have a problem with it if it was made by someone he knows and is currently talking to on a personal level.

Besides, we still don’t know that Weiner never had sex with any of these women.

Esthier on June 8, 2011 at 9:25 AM

“Is Internet sex cheating?”
To women: yes.
To men: no.

Count to 10 on June 7, 2011 at 7:07 PM

Should we ask married women who have Internet sex?

Steve Z on June 8, 2011 at 11:09 AM

To women: yes.
To men: no.

Count to 10 on June 7, 2011 at 7:07 PM

To women: yes.
To men: yes, but we do it anyway, because cheating is ok.

FIFY

Haiku Guy on June 8, 2011 at 1:35 PM

This question by the media reminds me of the questions they were asking about Clinton/Lewinski:

Is sucking Bill’s dick really sex?

jaime on June 8, 2011 at 3:16 PM

“Is Internet sex cheating?”

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Yes it is cheating… But it’s not sex…
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RalphyBoy on June 8, 2011 at 6:34 PM