I do have one question. If he would have to spend the rest of his life with, what we know will be, a very vindictive wife, yet the mistress is supposedly a looker, why in Gods name would he go back to his wife for a life of hell?
Jeff from WI on June 26, 2009 at 7:38 AM

Uh huh … your 36-year marriage must be a real joy. Er … how do you “know” she is “very vindictive” and it will be “hell”?

He had enough of “dating” American women when he met me.

You stuck your foot in your mouth again, and it’s obvious you have a big mouth and probably big feet as well. You identify yourself first and foremost by your race. You have stated clearly and adamantly, that to you, being hispanic and being American are two different things. That’s your perogative. But that’s not a conservative position.

Wait a second! You’re sonia sotomayor! Holy cow! Right here at HA! We have a celebrity! I’m sorry if we “Americans” (white people by your definition) are not as beautiful or sensitive as you, you racist slob.

Wow… that’s so deeply ignorant.

She looks like a classy woman and a fantastic partner. Her motherhood is vibrant and strong. And she has a sense of humor.

beatcanvas on June 26, 2009 at 5:49 AM

I urge you not to engage imbeciles here. They crave affirmation – deny them.

She should have just issued the statement and then stopped commenting about the affair.

Actually she wasn’t commenting on the affair and if you go back and listen to it her answers were discreet and respectful and should actually help sanford if in fact he is sorrowful and repentent. She did a good job. She was surrounded and could have rolled up the window and drove through them like a scared submissive little spouse but she didn’t. She was impressive.

It’s not just Latinas, almost any culture outside of the anglosphere teaches women that it is important to remain feminine. American men have the worst of both worlds- women who demand equality except when it doesn’t suit them. Of course, too many American men are chivalrous manginas who think the way to a woman’s heart is to be a doormat.

Bill C on June 26, 2009 at 2:02 PM

Want to know what women want? What their most deepest desire is?

They want to feel as though they are the most important person to you. This desire is universal. It doesn’t matter where she is from.

They want to hear you tell them they are special TO YOU in words and deeds. The best way to convey this to them is to spend time listening to them.

I’ll admit that men have the more difficult job. It takes far less time to please a man than it does a woman. But, as any happily married man will tell you, a happy wife is worth every effort he puts into it.

You want a woman to respect you? Admire you? Give herself ENTHUSIASTICALLY to you in bed?

Meet her deepest love need.

You needed to read between the lines like the article in Newsweek stated:

Bill C on June 26, 2009 at 1:51 PM

No, I don’t.

The “between the lines” is nothing more then the writer’s impression of what she “really” meant or how her words could be interpretated.

It was a very classy eff you to the governor.

That’s an interesting opinion, but nothing more than that.

Also, when I said she came from Winnetka and surmised that she was a typical upper middle class American ice queen that was only a guess.

Yes, it was only a guess. Nothing more than that.

I have no idea. But it is possible and I think you should keep an open mind to the possibility.

Why would I need to keep an open mind about the possibility that your GUESS might be correct?

You’ve already stated that even if she were an ice queen, that still wouldn’t justify his adultery. So what would be the point?

I’ve heard women try to justify their adultery b/c their husbands were lousy lovers and put their work ahead of them.

This kind of blame shifting is BS no matter which sex is spouting it.

This is so very true, Marsh. My dad messed up big time with my mother. I am forever indebted to my now deceased parents that they salvaged their marriage. Indeed, had my mother not swallowed her pride and somehow summoned up some genuine forgiveness, my future, and that of my siblings, would have been sorely changed for the worse. They died with their old scars, I am sure, but managed to be quite devoted to one another.

I have experienced that old adage. There’s a lot of good in the worst of us and a lot of bad in the best of us.
Mrs. Sanford is in the same mold as my mother and I wish them both a rehabilated marriage and her children a solidified home.

marybel on June 26, 2009 at 12:56 PM

Thank you for sharing that w/ me…w/ all of us.

Yes, we live in a fallen world, but thank goodness there is redemption and forgiveness… and people like your mother who are willing to offer forgiveness so that they might further protect/bless their children.

What a wonderful example she set before you!

Actually it’s fun to rattle cages. Blame the wife in some convoluted way in here..stand back and watch the fireworks.
But the Ms Sanford Admiration Society Meeting was a bit much.

Jeff from WI on June 26, 2009 at 8:51 AM

Was pretty sure already you were just a troll, thanks for clearing that up.

For the record, I don’t know what kind of relationship the Sanfords had. I know she’s worked hard on his career, as he also has. I do not approve of the way he trashed his family in this affair. One can always act with dignity and do the right thing. He chose not to do that. I’ve lost respect for him.

zeebeach on June 26, 2009 at 8:52 AM

Wow, you can say THAT again. Serious “issues” coming out on this thread!

For the record: Sanford is not the first man to fall head over heels over a Latin woman, nor he will be the last. I see that every single day. We have friends who had enough of American women and found Mexican, Peruvian, Portuguese, Salvadoran, etc. women as life companions. They couldn’t be happier. The same goes for American women who choose Latin guys as their companions. I know quite a few, BTW.

newton on June 26, 2009 at 12:39 PM

It’s not just Latinas, almost any culture outside of the anglosphere teaches women that it is important to remain feminine. American men have the worst of both worlds- women who demand equality except when it doesn’t suit them. Of course, too many American men are chivalrous manginas who think the way to a woman’s heart is to be a doormat.

She said nothing about his affair. Only talked about what her priorities are.

I agree w/ Newsweek, she did take the high road. Has reclaimed her dignity at an extremely agonizing time in her life.

Assuming to know what her motives were is almost as foolish as your claim that b/c she was born to wealthy parents she didn’t want to please her husband in bed.

Marsh on June 26, 2009 at 12:04 PM

You needed to read between the lines like the article in Newsweek stated: She reclaimed the high ground: she “put forth every possible effort to be the best wife during almost 20 years of marriage” (i.e., she did nothing to deserve this). She believes in the sanctity of marriage (he’s a cheating bastard). She is ready to forgive completely (because she’s a better person than he’ll ever be) “as long as he continues to work toward reconciliation with a true spirit of humility and repentance” (there will be hell to pay). She says she will continue to focus on raising her sons to be honorable young men (unlike their dirtbag father). She had kept the separation quiet, she said, to protect those four beautiful boys, and because of the separation, she really hadn’t a clue about where her husband was.

It was a very classy eff you to the governor. Also, when I said she came from Winnetka and surmised that she was a typical upper middle class American ice queen that was only a guess. I have no idea. But it is possible and I think you should keep an open mind to the possibility.

This is so very true, Marsh. My dad messed up big time with my mother. I am forever indebted to my now deceased parents that they salvaged their marriage. Indeed, had my mother not swallowed her pride and somehow summoned up some genuine forgiveness, my future, and that of my siblings, would have been sorely changed for the worse. They died with their old scars, I am sure, but managed to be quite devoted to one another.

I have experienced that old adage. There’s a lot of good in the worst of us and a lot of bad in the best of us.
Mrs. Sanford is in the same mold as my mother and I wish them both a rehabilated marriage and her children a solidified home.

so much that he hasn’t bothered with American women for almost twenty years

So you aren’t an American? Or is it that you believe your ethnicity is more important then your country?

It’s amazing how the seemingly unimportant threads like this one and the jackson one give insight into what people really believe. They drop thier guards when they don’t think they are proving thier conservative credentials.

peacenprosperity on June 26, 2009 at 6:03 AM

So, in other words, according to you, I am NOT a conservative???

You better think again, a-hole. I AM a conservative woman, and a Puerto Rican, to boot.

I don’t give a rat if you question my credentials. But your tent is waaay too small for others like me to fit your narrow-minded definition, it seems.

Yes, my husband is a conservative, and he’s also white. He had enough of “dating” American women when he met me. It has been eighteen years, fourteen of them married, and then with two girls under the age of three, and he hasn’t regretted it one bit. Neither have I.

For the record: Sanford is not the first man to fall head over heels over a Latin woman, nor he will be the last. I see that every single day. We have friends who had enough of American women and found Mexican, Peruvian, Portuguese, Salvadoran, etc. women as life companions. They couldn’t be happier. The same goes for American women who choose Latin guys as their companions. I know quite a few, BTW.

It’s obvious to me that Sanford is going to drop everything he has in life for this woman. Let him be: let him resign, divorce, whatever. He will lose everything, including his kids, but maybe he’ll find some peace of some kind in the end. I’m sure Mrs. Sanford will be all the wiser after all this.

Maybe, maybe some American women have to ask themselves what is it about Latin women that attracts American men away from them in the first place. Maybe they will like to find out. I say “GO ahead and find out! You’re very welcome!”

You’re not in Kansas anymore.

But with your narrow-minded attitude, this definition of conservatives as “American whites” only, that shuts down many people like my husband and me – oh, and our children, too. Remember, they’re multiracial. No wonder so many “multiracials” are casting their lots with the Democrats!

Who the hell wants a husband who is/was deeply in love with someone else.

luvstotango on June 26, 2009 at 12:07 PM

A British lady named Diana Spencer should have asked herself the exact same question.

The problem is the incongruity between her stated goal of protecting her children and her willingness to talk to the press about the state of her marriage. She should have just issued the statement and then stopped commenting about the affair.

The kids know all about it already. Mark made sure of that.

Who the hell wants a husband who is/was deeply in love with someone else.

luvstotango on June 26, 2009 at 12:07 PM

80% of marriages survive infidelity.

He’ll get over his infactuation and realize what a complete jacka$$ he was.

He loved his wife once. He can love her again.

Interesting find, Marybel.

Who the hell wants a husband who is/was deeply in love with someone else.